Ride Your Own Bicycle Today!

Often times clients have mentioned to me one toxic person in their life, or even several- be it a coworker, a previous romantic partner/spouse, or even a family member, or even several family members.Often times I hear "I just don't know what to do" Or, "Why did they do this or do that?" What was the purpose?

For these toxic relationships, my guides showed me a very distinctive  image: A tandem bike in the mud- you and the individual are riding the tandem bike, however the bike is stuck in mud. You as the passenger may be aware as to why the bike is in the mud or you may not. Regardless the toxic individual leading is getting most of the muck up in their face, and you're getting any of the residues that aren't hitting them. The person in front is confused, can't see, and as a result lacks general direction, and you being on the back seat, are just on for the ride. And to make things worst the faster you both pedal to get out of the mud, the deeper the bike sinks into the mud. Each of you go nowhere.stuck.

You think ok, I can go back, get a rope and pull them out, or even better  I will help them push their bike out of the mud- the solutions to help reach out and help this person zing through your mind. However the only issue that is left standing is How the hell did they end up in the mud in the first place? How come this individual steered you guys off the path the first time? Why did we even use a tandem bike?  Maybe they shouldn't be leading the way after all? So then you think, well I'll lead the bike! They can ride the back seat! Or even better we won't ride a tandem bike!
So you approach the person and say, "Hey, I'll take the lead and  I'm pretty sure I can get us another bike."

Several Things happen: 1)You lead, yet you still have to question Why this individual couldn't lead the way? Breeding an eventual distrust and questioning 2) They get their own bike but can't keep up with you so eventually they'll insist on the tandem bike.
3)You bring them a bike, yet they insist on still wanting to ride the original tandem bicycle AND lead the way. 4) They give some reason as to why the tandem bicycle makes more sense. 5) You realize no solution is going to be good enough and you're back to square one- them in the lead on a tandem bike eventually back in the mud. A never ending exhausting cycle. The mud is the person's own issues and they are the only ones who can get themselves out.

This is how my guides have portrayed to me the cycle of toxic relationships.   Eventually, when you become tired of going around and around and around literally or figurativley spinning your wheels on someone elses issues in mud going absolutely nowhere - you simply get off the bike-  You just "know"that riding this tandem bike is really shitty- the cycle is broken. Almost. 

 And I say almost because it dawned upon even in my own personal life I've spun my little hamster wheel of a mind even after getting off the tandem bicycle Actually its amazing how much mind power one uses to question with Why? What's the purpose of this person's toxic behavior? Sure, I eventually find some learning life lesson value in it, but I'm human and just want to know the heck WHY? But then you spend so much circling in your own mind Why, why, why, why, why? And you waste time not finding your own new improved bicycle.

After much discussion with friends, family, and clients and deep introspection- I realized that  we as humans desire to know the Why- and the WHY is truly translates to the intention.   
                       What was the intention behind the person and/or the actions? 

To speak my truth and speak it clearly, you probably will never really know the their true intention.  You can literally expend more energy (if only these translated into calories)  than necessary and spin your wheels wondering Why- and you get the same place you started- NOWHERE.And this occurs for several reasons 1) Most important You  will never BE them  AND ITS NOT YOUR JOB TO FIGURE IT OUT  2) Often times the toxic individuals themselves rarely know their own intentions, they have no idea how they ended up in the mud- usually due to a lack of purpose and direction. 3) Or even if they claim to know, their true intentions usually are even more deeply rooted than they realize- and they have yet to draw awareness to the root of the issue, or have yet to explore the root in order to heal.

And more importantly for myself, I couldn't expend anymore energy as to how the bicycle got stuck in the first place- I've come to understand that often times the letting go isn't just the letting go of the stuff, the individual, or the material stuff but also the the WHY OF YOUR OWN MIND. 

By releasing and letting go of our own theorizing and Why-ing- we begin to move ahead even faster. Not only are you able get off the back seat of the toxic person AND the constant questioning (the more time you spend questioning, you waste time finding your own new cool bicycle) find your own bicycle, reorient yourself back to the main strip of pavement, and forge ahead, faster, light, with more purpose and more direction. All. On. Your. Own. 

P.S.  If they catch up to you on their OWN bicycle this is a good thing as they'll have figured out how to stay out of the mud! Till then forge ahead! 

Healing the Human Heart: The Epidemic of Spiritual Rationalizing

I once read a blog about a year from a lovely yoga teacher friend of mine. And in it she mentioned the concept of "Spiritual Rationalization"- the idea where there is some karmic learning lesson behind a situation or person, and by discovering this (or psycho-analyzing it till its dead and can't move) you think its supposed to make everything better, or at least make you feel better. But it doesn't make you feel better because you are still human.
You and I are spiritual beings in a HUMAN experience and body. So yes while the "Spirit" side of us understands all of the in/outs of karmic relations, balancing, what we still are is Human Beings who FEEL.
So when we have loss in our lives or struggles we may naturally feel anger, frustration, sadness, or hopeless. We may lash out and say hurtful things, vent on social media, throw things out the door, and maybe even engage in revenge like actions such as steal someones parking spot when we are aware they park there on the regular just to irritate them (Guilty as charged on all accounts)!

I'm here to tell you that FEELING is okay. You are allowed to FEEL what you do. Last time I checked we we're all HUMAN. No matter if you are the hurt one or the hurter, you are entitled to feel sad, and allowed to take the time to be sad!

For example, I was quite recenly in a romantic relationship which I knew was karmic. I 'knew' on a soul level we we're not meant to 'be'. Probably in a past-life we we're husband and wife (which is very common by the way) Intuitivley I knew. After a certain period of time, in my gut, truly I 'knew', he was for Now, but not IT.
 BUT Like any human being I have free-will. And No amount of karmic contracts/lessons can change human free-will. However, human free-will can change karmic lessons/contracts!!  I got exactly what I wanted, this individual, with all their baggage. Baggage that negatively effected me as well as him.

 However, on a human level I soooooo wanted it to "work out". I wanted this to be IT!  I was willing to force it to make it "work"- square peg round hole kind of scenario. I chose to ignore my intuition, my gut feelings, and even my close intuitive family and friends. All signs pointed "OUT" not "IN" for this romantic relationship, but I made a CHOICE... 
ignore my intuition 
make it work 
and what I CHOSE, came with series of events to follow that I felt almost broke my heart in two. (But I am and always will be a McDonough Woman, and we're very good at survival and don't enjoy jonesing around with time-wasters).

 Now naturally I also think- I can only blame myself. I chose to take a risk and make a choice.
I was angry at myself for not trusting what I already 'knew'. However, my human self felt hurt, angry, frustrated and questioning, despite all the psycho-analzying karmic-angelic signs of the universe hooplah, I need to let my human self be human!



                          So I'm letting people know you're allowed to feel angry and hurt. 
                                                     You're allowed to be human.

                                        Coping Tips For Humans & Earthworkers

*Write A Letter to the person, or even pet who is gone. Write a letter of appreciation, anger, or even sadness. Just put it all on paper.In the meantime,store them in a private place where you can read them, or write another.  Sometimes it can be years before you're ready to do this, maybe just days. One day when you're ready to release just gently burn them (in a safe way! not crazy pyromaniac way) and either forgive, or let go, to open yourself to a new chapter.

* Clean-Up Your Social Media- Yes clean it up. Delete it if you have to. Keep your power to yourself, you'll hear faster listening to your own heart's healing vibration. Keep it positive, put a pretty picture of yourself, a rainbow, something other than you flicking off the world (because although that may be how you feel, its just not *sigh* not nice, tried and true!) My good friend called me out on this and to paraphrase, "Meredith, stop being a b*tch and take your post(s) down." Dammit friend you're right. (On 11/13/14 Meredith McD. admitted to being wrong about something. Take note.smile).

* Flower Essences- Flower Essences of Missiones from Argentina are an excellent supplement to help you work through emotionally difficult times. Bach flower remedies are also recommended. I myself have used them for anxiety as well as processing Grief and have seen a night/day difference.

* Rediscover Your True Self- Often times we get caught up in being a caregiver or romantic partner we stop doing the things that bring us Joy. Rediscover what you love! Whether that be walking, hiking, working out, cooking special dishes, coffee with friends, stalking cats in your neighborhood, fostering a pet, coloring, or playing in dirt- REDISCOVER YOU. THIS IS THE FUNNEST PART!!!

*Listen/Read to Inspirational Radio- hearing the same love songs over and over again may trigger unwanted feelings. Pop a cd of your favorite book, or inspirational speakers like Jack Canfield or Dr. Wayne Dwyer, or The Secret.

* Vocalize in the Car- Many people feel uncomfortable doing this, but it works really well! I call it primal scream therapy in the car, I wouldn't suggest doing in in rush hour. Or you can just talk out stuff to yourself in the car, yes you are talking to yourself, but it keeps your throat chakra squeeky clean!! Water suggested for this one.

*Have An Album For Your Emotions- Music is wonderful way to help us feel. Sometimes in the initial shock of something you may not really know what to feel, you just know you feel like shit.  You can compile a list of angry songs, sad songs, loss songs, just songs and spend an hour or less, letting those songs evoke emotions. It actually helps bring out emotions and process them more thoroughly. Not recommended while drinking. And if you're going to cry heavily, stay home, or some other safe-place. One day you'll look back on these song sand laugh (trust me you will!)

*Sage, Sage and Sage again- you can read my blog about clearing residual energies from a few months back to learn more about Saging.

* Punch a Pillow- As much as you may want to physically assault this person for acting like a Feck-tard, you cannot, that's not okay, and just leads to more unfavorable scenarios for you. So instead punch a pillow, or invest in some hand wraps and gloves and take it out on a punching bag. This also will help with any anger and if you have skin issues this will help clear those up.

* Buy a Rose Quartz/Quartzes- The stone of unconditional love of self and others. Put them all around your house. Sleep with one under your pillow, or at your bedside.

*CUT. THE. CORDS!!!!- Read blog on etheric cord-cutting I think its under karmic relationships on my site! CUT AGAIN, CUT, CUT, CUT. THEN...
* White Light- AM and PM, when you wake up, when you pass out. Imagine white light wrapping around you in safety, protection and warmth. People are most vulnerable during stage of grief to lower negative energies!
* Pray! Pray for clarity and understanding on situation or a person, and also pray for eventual releasement and forgiveness. Pray to help you feel better.

* Time. Time is powerful concept. Just know that although the first two weeks or even months in a loss whether it be death or ending of a relationship, the more time that passes, the more processing occurs. Time really is a healer.

* Remember there is Power in the Black- My dog once told me,"Mom, there is power in the black." What she meant was there is power in our lows and our deepest darkest times (she herself was a black lab, funnily enough,let these lows be a launching pad into the light, without the dark we don't have the light.

So if you're human and you're hurting, or feeling lost, just know that all of this will pass, regardless of how bad you feel. There's no prize for healing fastest (although I think if there were to be a jackpot people would have more incentive to do so) so patient with yourself, and more importantly focus on loving yourself with proper sleep, food, contemplation/prayer, sometimes just starting with basics is all we can do at first.

In Love and Light,

Meredith McDonough



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Also, Shout-out to Rachel Carr for Spiritual Rationalization!!

What Do a Psychic, a Dentist, And a College Professor all have in common?

 What Do a Psychic, a Dentist, And a College Professor All Have In Common? 

After living my entire life in DC Metro Area I've come to observe that the primary question people ask one another is besides, "What is your name?" is "What do you do?" Apparently, this is actually the question your supposed to avoid talking about on a first date, but Eharmony doesn't understand that no one could ever follow this rule in a major city.

  Now being a psychic-medium and telling people what I do for a living, especially in the DC, always gets a jump-start in the conversation. I now understand that this question once relayed to me, will always gets the conversation flowing, tons of questions are asked, tons of questions and misconceptions are set aside and answered, more wine is poured, stories are shared, people are fascinated, and want readings right then and there, and I'm usually left feeling DRAINED and USED. I understand people are happy and curious,  however I usually feel this way because its often information I would be giving to a client who is actually serious about making an appointment.

 I always say No to giving readings on command, unless I feel that my guides really truly have something to let someone know something. Which is generally Never. My guides know that I want to enjoy my glass of wine and plate of cheese without being "On". I really just don't want to have a deep intellectual conversation on reincarnation while I'm double-fisting beer. My solution now has been to refer people off to books that they can read. Eventually one day it'll be this blog into a book!

So Let me get the clear point across: Psychics are like Dentists and College Professors. Would you approach your dentist and ask him to check for cavities in the middle of party? Probably not. Would you ask your college professor as he is out having coffee with a colleague, if he could quickly check your grade and let you know if you passed last Friday's quiz?  

More than likely NOT. Basically we have ZERO desire to perform "on command" just as a Dentist or Professor. I made it extra large so you cannot miss. NOPE!

I'm here to educate people that psychic readings aren't parlor trick. We're not trick monkeys. We're here to help people heal and we're following are path to make a living doing it! AND  Yes we love to get paid! $$$$ (Ching Ching!) doing what we're put on this earth here to do! 

So just as you would make an appointment with your college professor or dentist, psychics have office hours and prices too, and its time to respect our office hours and prices. 

In Love and Light, 

Meredith McDonough

If you would like to Host Meredith At Your Next Group Gathering (wedding, housewarming, birthday party, whatever event) She is more than happy to do so.
Readings are 30 minutes for $50. Advance Booking Required.
You may contact her directly at operationhighervibrations@gmail.com or 703-835-5473.