Romance and Intuition: "You Know When You Know"

The metaphysical community is always talking about Love. Love this. Love that. Love everyone. Unconditional Love. You'd think we we're sitting around singing Kumbaya, perhaps wearing tie-dye shirts and contemplating the meaning and shape of a flower petal.

But what about the nitty-gritty stuff? .The deep-down romance and the soul-baring emotional talks. The ups and downs of romantic love. The love that can one moment make us say, do, and feel things that we've never felt or done before, and the next moment drive us up the wall with frustration, resentment, and anger.
Isn't it great? (smile).

But often times when I get calls to do an intuitive readings. Some of the top questions I'm asked are in regard to romantic relationships:

 Is the man or woman I'm currently seeing a good match for me?
 Is my soul mate out there?
Where is Mr./Mrs. Right (And why haven't they shown up yet?)
When is my significant other going to be ready to "take the next step?"
How come I keep attracting losers and/or people who are emotionally unavailable?
Is he or she going to ever change their mind on X issue or habit?
Will I ever find love?
How I come feel strongly drawn to this individual? Like a magnetic attraction?

Honestly, I can't even pretend to be a dating "expert." Like many out there, I've read my fair share of books on dating. The books tell you what to do, what not to do, when to call, when not to call, to text or not to text, who text who first, how many dates to go on per week, red flags, what it means when he says this or that, and now there is online dating which is a whole world unto itself ....it all gets very confusing and perplexing.

Also, I've had my fair share of dates and relationships, and probably plenty more to come. Some good ones, where I hit it off with the person right away, and others where I generally wanted to turn and run away as fast as I could. And although being an intuitive makes dating slightly more difficult, it comes in handy in saving my time and my date's time, when I just 'know' and feel when something just is or isn't their romantically with an individual, even just after one date. As my teacher and friend once said, " If you ever want to clear a room of men, just tell them your psychic. smile ladies.

As many of my friends who have found their romantic love have said, "When you know, you know." To illustrate, one of my close friends knew she was going to marry her husband...when they met at the ripe age of 4! She said, "I just knew he was my future husband then and there at the age of 4, I can't really explain how I knew, I just knew." And despite the other directions they took in life, the universe GPS'ed them back together at an appropriate marrying age, and they now have two wonderful children together. (Often times these couples have had past-lives together as husband and wife before in other life times, or some other close relationship like siblings).

Other times I have had experiences where I've felt a strong magnetic attraction to someone and things started off extremely well, only to have the relationship end pretty roughly. People think well your psychic shouldn't you know this would end badly? Trust me people, I wonder that too!

These instant magnetic attractions are usually karmic relationships. Karmic relationships serve a significant purpose and role on a soul and human level. We usually have had past-lives with these individuals with similar themes before. Also many abusive relationships tend to be past-life based.  And even if its just days, weeks, or years, the relationship time with this person is to teach certain lessons to you and you to them. These lessons take place on a soul level and on the everyday now human level. Often times as these lessons or roles are played out in this lifetime,  triggers occur for an individual to choose to keep going in the pattern or choose self-growth, self-realization, and as this begins to occur the relationship usually begins to unravel, usually for the better.

 Or in some circumstances, especially in cases of nasty divorces,  if one partner refuses to drop his/her end of the rope either financially or emotionally,and keeps trying to pull the other person back, sometimes the lesson is for the pulled individual to stand-up for oneself and set a boundary to not be pulled back into the relationship. Again, these are usually heavy past-life relationships that are attempting to resolve and rebalance again in this lifetime.

Often times, we'll keep attracting the same kind of people or themes over and over and over until the lessons are learned.

 How do we know the lesson has been learned? Because its stop repeating, or swinging back and forth between extremes, and Balance is attained.

Furthermore, when I'm giving a reading and Spirit is speaking through me to answer a clients romantic love questions, it suddenly become clear. All the angst, self-doubt, and gray area that people are experiencing in regards to their love lives is lifted. Sometimes what comes through is satisfying for the client, usually because Spirit is telling them something they are happy to hear such as: Their partner respects and loves them, and is deeply loyal.

And other times the information that Spirit brings through is more sobering. Information that may take the client some time to process and accept. Sometimes its that their partner is probably not going to change, and they are who they are, which leads us into Free Will.

The key to any reading but particularly relationship readings and relationships overall is FREE WILL. For example, a girl or guy calls for a reading. We do the reading and some sobering information in regards to their significant other comes through, I deliver the information, and they ask me, "So...Should I break up with my boyfriend or girlfriend?" In response, I ask, "What do you want?" "Do you think you should?" The initiative must go in the client's decision making court no matter what the circumstances. And truly at the end of the day, whatever a client decides to do with the information they receive from Spirit is completely up to them.

Again, I'm not an expert, but I feel and know intuitively that navigating the high-seas of dating/romance are much easier when you:

- Follow your heart, your gut, and your OWN mind of what you want, need, and desire in your life.
And know that all of these work together all at once on the intuitive level.

-Ask your Angels and the Universe/God to assist in your love life.
It can't hurt right? We're allowed to have little pep talks with God and say,"Hey God, I hope all is well, by the way could you stop sending me x,y,z, flaw of persons I've dated, because it's really getting old. The next guy you send, send that One, and make sure he is awesome in every way."
- Trust that you'll be answered (maybe just not on your timetable, but that can be requested too,can't hurt right).

-No amount of dating books, amount of dates, or friend's advice -replaces your own innate intuition of the way you feel (or don't feel) about someone.

 - Sometimes your heart may lead you into something for learning and growth, which may later leave it feeling broken, disappointed, grieving, and angry...at least for a Time.

In Time- you heal, you grow, you make questionable choices, take risks, face fears, feel alone, buy a fish, drink too much wine,  take up knitting, begin scheming for world domination..

... and later meet or re-meet someone where you know,when you know. 

... (And you'll have acquired a fish, have drunken some really good wine, maybe finished the knitting, and met someone to help you take over the world).

"We are all a little weird and life's a little weird, and when we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours, we join up with them and fall in mutual weirdness and call it love." - Dr. Seuss - See more at: http://www.chacha.com/question/what-is-the-dr.seuss-quote-about-weirdness#sthash.v2StY6xS.dpuf

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"We're all a little weird. And life is a little weird. And when we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours, we join up with them, and fall into a mutually satisfying weirdness and call it love, true love." - Dr. Seuss. 

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Hypnosis 101: What is it? How Does It Work? And What Is the Benefit?

Many people are curious and fascinated by hypnosis. However those same often have reservations, misconceptions, and an overall picture of a person standing over someone with a pendulum telling the subject they will become very sleepy and to do whatever the hypnotist says. For others it is simply getting past the word itself Hypnosis” (Bolduc).

Interesting fact: there are hypnotists that use the pendulum technique (it is real!) and there are many who do not. (Full disclosure: I don’t). What many people think is hypnosis is actually “stage hypnosis”. Stage hypnosis meant purely for entertainment and fun; it is real, and it is pretty cool!

In contrast, hypnotherapy has a long track record of helping clients lose weight, develop more self-confidence, helping police solve crimes, healing past-lives, and healing inner child trauma;  making hypnosis  a powerful healing and transformative therapeutic tool for the mind, body, and spirit.

Probably the most common misconception of hypnosis is that the hypnotist has control over the subject. This is why many hypnotherapists term achieving a hypnotic state as going “into hypnosis” versus being “under hypnosis”; it is to reassure the client that there is no one “over” them.

Another concern almost all clients have is revealing any inner dark secrets or embarrassing tidbits about themselves.  Fact: it is impossible for someone to behave in a way against their own free will, and/or reveal secrets in a state of hypnosis because:

1) In reality at the end of the day all hypnosis is self-hypnosis. Believe it or not, people go into states of hypnosis every day whether they’re aware of it or not. The two most immediate examples are during long highway driving or becoming engrossed in a book.

2)Whether it’s stage hypnosis or hypnotherapy, the same axiom exists: the subject has willingly has agreed to walk on stage and be an active participant, or has voluntarily made an appointment and come with 100% free will to make a shift in their lives, and the client has made the choice that he or she does not want certain personal information exposed.

3) Furthermore, the client has full control over how deep into hypnosis he or she wants to go. Hypothetically, if I had total and complete control “over” my clients, they’d all be dropping weight in three days and never pick up a cigarette again!

4) At the end of the day it’s all based on free will. Hypnosis cannot take away one’s free will since it is the will of the person’s mind who is allowing them to go into hypnosis in the first place.

I often am asked HOW is hypnosis done? How do I hypnotize someone?

My style of hypnosis is taking my clients through guided-visual imagery and breathing techniques and guiding clients to basically get out of their own way. The conscious mind-Ego is a wonderful driver and ambitious, however it can also hinder us. So, while going into hypnosis I’m temporarily asking the client to give their conscious mind a break, so their subconscious can step up and absorb the suggestions being spoken. The subconscious is where all are true desires lie and it is also where we hold all our own answers.

There is no right or wrong way to help someone achieve a hypnotic state; it’s just a matter of the hypnotherapists’ training, background, and style.

For instance, a popular and effective method of inducing a subject into hypnosis is having the client imagine a set of stairs, in which each step represents a deeper and deeper level of relaxation. Or if a client has a step-phobia I would take them through a more well-suited guided visualization.

So if all hypnosis is self-hypnosis what exactly is the role of the “hypnotherapist”?

I once had a mentor tell me that I “...wasn’t qualified to be doing hypnosis, since I didn’t have a degree in psychology”, and they “...wouldn’t trust someone who didn’t to hypnotize them…” Admittedly, this stung a bit and I was rather stunned, and was unsure how to process these statements since it came from an individual I respect and trusted. However, it got my wheels turning. What makes hypnotherapy different from a general mainstream therapist? And what and how makes someone “qualified”? A degree? Is it truly the letters behind their name? Or is the percentage they scored on the passing exam? Or is it something deeper than that?

In response, my teacher and mentor, Dr. Allen Chips, dubbed as the “Hypno Buddha” in the Hypnosis community, described that the relationship between client and transpersonal hypnotherapist as, “Divine, it is a relationship of personal growth for both therapist and client, and each client brought through the door is brought by higher forces.” That being said if you feel called to pursue the work of hypnosis then pursue it for your own self -healing and others. The clients that walk through the door are clients who are drawn to you on some level, like attracting like. And as always you trust your intuition by knowing and exercising your limitations.

Furthermore, the hypnotherapist’s role (in my belief) is as follows:

1) Hold sacred space for their client one hundred percent of the time with the highest intention of good. This space is held from the time the client walks in the door and fills out an intake form to the time the client is putting their shoes back on and walking out my door.  

2) I’m simply guide, a facilitator. Sometimes people think the therapist does all the work and if the client isn’t losing weight or achieving a particular goal/end result right away, it is something at fault with the therapist. In my belief there is equal exchange of energy between the client and hypnotherapist that is taking place while they are in session. I truly believe and have seen with my own eyes that a hypnotherapist who shows up with 100% focus attention and is on their “A-game” for their client will generally tend to have a client is 100% satisfied with their session.

And sometimes holding 100% sacred space for a client has even means being 100% honest, and referring them out to someone who is a better fit. For example, I had a couple who came into my office for fertility and conception. After explaining to me their situation, I realized this couple was not for me. Not because they were bad people, or anything of that matter. However, I knew in my heart I would not be able to hold 100% sacred space for this couple in their journey to conceiving. I had myself have no children (yet) and am not in that phase of my life where I could begin to understand the complexities of fertility. So, I was honest with myself and my client and referred them out. As a result, they found a hypnotherapist who specialized in hypno-birthing and are doing extremely well.

At the end of the day, I firmly believe a divine and personal rapport is established between hypnotherapist and client, a powerful and transformative exchange of energy for both parties.

Is hypnosis for everyone?

I’ll be honest, I’m not sure. Optimistically, I want to say yes it is! The most recent research says that 91% of the population is susceptible to hypnosis. However, it is important to acknowledge that not everyone who tried hypnosis is satisfied with the end result. When people are ready to do try hypnosis and make the change, they’re ready, plain and simple.

To illustrate, when I have spouses or significant others call on behalf of their partner, I tend to hold a strict policy that their spouse must make their own appointment and if they’re ready to talk to call me. People may think Geez Meredith, why’re such a hard-nose about this? It’s rooted in my belief when people are ready to do their OWN healing, they’ll make the call and make their own appointment.  It is simply a waste of the spouse’s time and my time, if they really don’t want to be there in the first place, since actively they’re not coming upon their own free will, but rather another’s will. And let’s get real time is valuable.

Success rates?

I don’t believe in success rates because in my opinion each client is unique and there is no one-size fits all formula. As Henry Leo Bolduc stated, “Hypnosis is like love, everyone experiences it differently.”  For example, some people feel and see immediate results in themselves after a session, while others may take more sessions over a longer period of time. And then there are the rare times when a client has declared they’ve had zero benefits from hypnosis for various reasons. This is usually due to lack of rapport or trust, or they in reality didn’t really want to be there in the first place, hence my strict ‘spouse must call and make own appointment’ policy.

Why Hypnotherapy, what makes it beneficial?

Hypnotherapy is not “therapy” in the mainstream sense that it’s thought of, and it has many therapeutic benefits. Often times, hypnotherapy is a client’s last resort when they’ve generally exhausted all other options. It should be noted that during the initial client interview of the first session the interview can often run like a general ‘talk therapy’ session.   

Benefit 1) Many people report feeling grounded, calm, and centered, and really relaxed after a hypnosis session. Living in the Washington DC area, this is always nice to hear from a client!

Benefit 2) Every 1 hour of hypnosis is an equivalent to three hours of deep REM sleep (Bennet).

Benefit 3) Although talk therapy has many benefits and is valuable, clients can move into the past via hypnosis and partake in deep healing on a super conscious and subconscious level. Often times clients are able to resolve an issue that generally would’ve been 15 years of talk therapy in a few sessions of hypnosis.

Benefit 4) Hypnotic regression allows clients to go to the origin of an issue whether it be emotional, mental, physical, or spiritual. Often times in the acknowledgment of the root cause comes healing on various levels.

Benefit 5) Hypnotherapy if done by a certified hypnotherapist only, does not count as “therapy” therefore if you have a security clearance or work in a profession where going to a psychologist or therapist would affect job qualifications, hypnosis puts you and your paycheck in the clear.

To Learn More About Hypnotherapy

Suggested Reading

• Clinical Hypnotherapy: A Transpersonal Approach By Dr. Allen Chips.

    https://books.google.com/books?isbn=8120728882

• Self-Hypnosis By Henry Leo Bolduc

        https://ooks.google.com/books?isbn=1929661053

Words As The New Power Tool

            "Sticks and stones may break my bones, but your words will never hurt me."

Most of us have heard this children's rhyme at least some point in childhood. And well if you haven't...now you have. (smile) The power of  the word is incredibly strong. Stronger, I feel than most people realize. The words we speak and receive have a powerful effect on us, so much so that they can build us up, and like for many of us, have brought us down.  Words also send a powerful message to the universe from us- the ultimate determinates of our destiny- broadcasting to the public radio of the universe what we WANT.  In turn the universe brings us what we speak. Also, what we speak once started as a thought, and thoughts are things, and things travel! What we speak travels out to the universe! Now, speaking what we want can be hard at times because it truly requires us to be honest with ourselves. Sometimes, that means we have to sift through a lot of the other crap people told us we should, could, or could not have/do/be.  And of course, we've all had moments where we've said one thing and done another (ladies you know exactly what I'm talking about)

Conjointly the law of attraction constantly mentions Like Attracts Like, or many of you may be more familiar with the saying "birds of a feather flock together."

For example, up until now, more often than not I really "didn't know" what I wanted in relationships. What did I end up with? Guys who didn't know what they wanted either! Then I'd get all heart-broken and angry that this guy, "Didn't know what he wanted". Hey guess what?! Like Attracts Like!
I finally had to sit down, be honest with myself on what I WANT! For starters, I want someone who is ultimately compatible with me and who wants the same things as me! Marriage, kids,  and sure enough the guys who didn't know what they wanted began to disappear very quickly out of the picture! Bye!

My mentor and teacher, Linda Schiller-Hanna, suggested that her students spin challenges in their lives into this mantra instead: "Up until now, I struggled with x (whatever issue is at hand). Or simply speak of the issue in the past-tense, or as improved!

When I first started my healing practice, I'll be honest I was not making money. When I first began, I didn't really think of the "cost" factor, just that I love to spread my joy in healing. And in the first year of my business often times I was actually busting my tail selling bridal dresses Thursday to Sunday, and interning the other days of the week, and seeing clients on the side. For awhile I was putting in about 60-70 hours a week. (Although selling bridal dresses sounds fun, each of them apiece is about 30-40lbs of material, and I was lifting about 4-6 at a time).

One day I woke up and I realized. This sucks! I don't want to work 60-70 hours a week! I want to be dedicated in my work.

So I sat down and had a Scarlett O'Hara moment with the universe. In a gist it went something like this, "Look here universe, I'm here to do what you want me to do, every experience in my life has led me up to this point, I'm here to do what you need me to do, on certain conditions- I will have shelter, I will not starve, and I will make more than enough to take care of myself and be able to enjoy my the abundance in healing."

The feeling of reply was:  "Okay, we have received your wants, however you need to uphold YOUR end. Leave the bridal store, leave the internship, we will provide. JUMP both feet forward into what you love."

It took a lot of faith and courage, and convincing my Asian mom that I was not going to be working on Capitol Hill, or any federal government agency for that matter, nor would I be going to law school or grad school. I figure she's okay with it now, since I'm still here alive, typing this blog away.

So, I finished out my internship and no longer pursued a job there. I gave my notice to the bridal store and left a few weeks later.

I'd be lying if I said the results were immediate, that all of sudden I had an influx of hundreds upon hundreds of clients, and I've never worked a seasonal job since. But I upheld my end of the bargain, and  now I receive all those that are ready to heal. My client flow comes in ebbs and flows, and I actually like it this way (the universe knows me well), and for now I occasionally work seasonal jobs (but only if they have a specific start and end date).

I write this because I see, feel, and know so many out there who have the talent to succeed at what they do: whether it be as a dancer, a baker, a teacher, writer, a healer, entrepreneur, inventor or pilot etc.  I hear them speak with passion about their ideas and their true passions, yet they choose to stay (for now) in a place that it is not in alignment with their passion! Please know, you will be taken care of following what you love! Take the leap! It won't always be easy and sometimes money still gets iffy, but speak your words of what you WANT to the universe, and you will be provided for!



                       Be honest with what you WANT and speak it to the universe.

                                                          (Trust me, It's listening!)

                                As always Speak Your Truth as the Truth will set you free.

Ego and Spirit: Striking The Balance

I'm a firm believer that every human being on this planet has the ability to access their inner-knowing, or intuition. Intuitives a vast variety of people: working mothers, single parents, librarians, police officers, the tellers at the bank, small business owners, marathon runners, teachers, and lawmakers- basically everyone has this inborn ability! Intuitives are everyone!

Being a rather 'in-tune' intuitive can sometimes feel like walking a tight  a rope between two worlds: Ego and Spirit. And it isn't always easy to maintain ones balance between the two!

Ego is what some would call the "normie" world. We need because it keeps us grounded and pushes us to achieve max potential. Ego is essentially our self-esteem.

Spirit is what leads us to trust that, "Everything will be okay"and a, "Build it and they will come mentality." Spirit helps us establish a trust that the higher powers will take care of everything, no matter how big or small. Spirit is geared by Hope, Faith, Love, and Peace. 

  However, people can walk too heavily in either world.
For example, walking too heavily in the Ego world can lead to a plaguing negativity mind set. The mind set of "There is never enough ", "I hate my job but I do it because it pays the bills and keeps food on the table." Or "I can't do what I really love because my parents said that's not a real career." They tend to get caught up in fear, obsessive worrying, and competition. This isn't to say that paying the bills, feeding a family, and being anxious about the next career move isn't a priority, but it is not okay when it consumes one's life, and pulls us away from enjoying life! And many people who tend to live in this lifestyle for too long eventually feel, become burned out, or dis-ease set's in on at the physical level for no apparent reason.

 The same goes for Spirit. Imbalance in Spirit can cause individuals to be ungrounded, airy-fairy, too "out there", and eventually these individuals can develop a lack in  an inability to relate to people on a realistic and interpersonal level, and become isolated. 

 The Balance between the two is essential for our soul growth, general happiness, and even our health! I will be honest even from my own life experience, maintaining the balance isn't' always easy, which why I equated it to walking a tight-rope!

For example, I used to enjoy Black Friday and After Christmas Day shopping. I was one of the proud few who was awake at 4AM ready to hit the bargain sales in at the mall. As a began walking around the mall with the hundreds of other shoppers, I began to feel sweaty, closed-in, nervous, anxious, and in just generally 'on-edge'. After walking around like this for about an hour I finally stopped and centered myself. I asked myself is this me or other people? The reply: other people, definitley! And haul ass out of there!"  I turned and looked at my date and said, "I have to get out of here!" As soon as we left the parking lot, I could feel the energy of the other people melt away. It was from this experience I learned to not forget to acknowledge my sensitive/spirit side of myself and better protect myself psychically from other people's energy.

Another example is balancing Spirit. I'm a big believer in manifesting one's desires. One day as I was driving down the road and I began to get really worried about money. I could feel my body tense, my breathe shorten, and generally just feel my vibration lower. Up until this point, I had been doing lots of manifestation meditation work, so I was surprised when this wave of worry hit me. After a few moments of negative thinking, I though to myself wait a second, I can't sit here and say woe is me, I have to do take responsibility for this! Out loud I said to myself, "Okay, wait, I acknowledge that I can manifest, but I also acknowledge my need to be more assertive in my actions in my quest for financial security." So, as much as I was in a state of allowance and abundance, I also had to get grounded in the reality of seeking out opportunities.

Recently, I attended a workshop with a good friend on the Enneagram. The Enneagram is typically used as a personality profile by employers and can be equated to the Myers-Briggs test. However, what makes the workings of the Enneagram unique is that it is able to delve deeper below the personality and into the essence of a person.  The Enneagram can assist an individual discover what qualities in their Ego disconnect them from being better connected to Spirit, and even better can give insight in how to bring it back into Balance!
After my own experience I think the benefits of the Ennegram are worthwhile.
It also has wonderful benefits for any kind of relationship dynamic.

 I wanted to write about this topic long ago, however my guides urged me not to, and very clearly stated, "You have to live your life!" And as usual, they were right! As much I wanted to share every single psychic experience that occurs from time to time, my guides made it clear that living life is important! Yes, meditation, forgiveness exercises, communicating with animals are all fine and dandy, but hey, returning my library books on time, hitting the gym, and washing my socks is just as important too!

"For man may separate himself from God-the Spirit- but the spirit does not separate from man."
- Edgar Caycle





For those who are interested in learning more about the Enneagram I highly recommend Chris Wright.
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