Many of us have heard the saying, "doctors make the worst patients" although this belief tends to hold true in trend it isn't a balanced approach on how to lead life. More importantly it is a belief that can be easily changed. I cannot stress enough the importance of other energy workers, doctors,
nurses, therapist, caretakers, even parents to take care of themselves!
Being a hands-on healer myself it's easy to talk to my clients about the concept of balance all day, just as a medical doctor can lecture a patient on the importance of eating a balanced diet, exercise, and getting enough rest, the medical doctor and the healer both actually have to do these things too. Primarily because both can and have suffered burnout by not keeping a balance. Whether in food, rest, or time for oneself. As a result they then spend more time recovering from the burnout when they could have prevented in the first place.
For example, it amazes me when I hear how nurses and doctors operate on less than 6 hours of sleep and then get up and assist or perform a surgery. It makes me wonder do I really want this person operating on me who's running on 4 hours of sleep? Will they make a mistake because they are overworked? I know for myself I'd much rather have the doctor who has had a full night's rest! Some could argue that there aren't enough medical staff in our hospital system to allow for that. I disagree.
Many people say but my job doesn't let me do that! I can't do that! I can't take time off to go the doctor because of x,y, and z reason. I don't have time, my job won't let me!
Myself included and my clients have often told me why they cannot take care of themselves or indulge for themselves
- I don't have time.
- I don't have money.
- I have x amount of children and husband who demands my time and attention.
- My job won't let me do x,y, or z.
I'm here to tell you that a job doesn't own you or your quality of life, and if it is currently, it shouldn't. I used to work at bridal store. Certainly not a job for the faint of heart. I enjoyed some of my time working there with my fellow coworkers, but we worked really hard. We all worked all weekend. It was rare a weekend was taken off by anyone. Our average Saturday was 7-8 hours on our feet with maybe a 15 minute break, if we we're lucky. Weekends were spent working with demanding brides, bridesmaids, and mother-in-laws. The dresses that we lifted were at least 40lb-50lbs and we we're lifting 4-6 at a time, usually 4x each trip from the racks to the dressing room. We were responsible for getting the customer in and out of the dress, pitching the dress for sale, and hope that we could sell it that day. We were all exhausted from the end of the day and working on $7.50/hour with a low commission. The commission only came if your bride actually came to pick up her dress.
(If you are ever considering working in a bridal store invest in a good comfortable pair of shoes).
Well, one day in the bridal store we had a customer come in and due to lack of training I was not able to help her because I had not been trained by management to perform this particular duty. As a result, the customer became very upset with me, so I went to get my manager to handle the situation. Although the situation was resolved. The customer stated, "That she didn't know what my problem was and that I had an attitude." The customer continued to verbally slam me going on and on about how awful I was. Now, I'm a pretty peaceful person and I rarely feel the need to whip out the claws. But that day I was not taking anymore of this customer's attitude. So I replied calmly, " Ma'm I've done everything you've asked of me, I even got our manager for you to help resolve the situation. What else is it that you want? What is the real issue here?" The customer was stunned, she continued to look at me wide-eyed. She couldn't believe that I a lowly, bridal consultant would dare call her out on her bullshit.(yes even healers swear!)
My manager dismissed me to the break room, where she later came to tell me that, "I could not speak to customers that way." I understood my manager clearly but I spoke my truth and replied, "I will speak the way that is most in alignment with my dignity as a person, I have a right to stand up for myself and set boundaries for how others treat me, and if I'm not allowed to do that here, then this is not the proper work environment for me." I put in my two weeks notice a few weeks later. And I left with a sense of freedom. Moral of the story: As a healer you are also a person. Its okay to call people on their bullshit. At some point in time your job can't run the quality of your life. You are allowed to receive dignity and respect in all aspects of your life, despite what your job says. If this resonates with you its time to reclaim your power.
But why? Meredith why does this matter? I'm a healer, parent, doctor, caretaker etc- its my JOB
to give.
I agree yes part of your role here on earth as a human soul is it to give, care, and nurture, but it is also to be balanced as a human soul, which means the soul needs to learn how to receive, which means taking care of your physical, mental/emotional, and spiritual body by giving it food, rest, or any other self-indulging activity. Overall, it's also your JOB to enjoy and lead a quality of life in this human experience.
The universe is all about balance and if one continues on a path of imbalance they will eventually suffer burnout. To illustrate, this past summer I worked as a summer camp counselor for a group of 10-15, 9 year old campers. I had a blast! I had a great time with the kids. I worked M-F 8am-4pm. In addition, I saw clients all day on Sunday and Monday and Tuesday evenings. Monday and Tuesdays were 12 hour days for me. In the background of all this my mother was preparing for her big move to Hawaii, and I was also moving my office and home. As a result, I had some questions and concerns about where I was moving, so I called a good friend of mine who is a psychic for a general reading. The first thing she picked up on was the imbalance in my right hand. (Usually healers have one hand that is the "giving hand" and the other hand is the "receiving hand"). My right hand is my giving hand. Now prior to this reading over the course of a few weeks the energy stopped flowing out of my right hand. I didn't take much notice of it at first because from reading above when would I have had time to tune into myself and feel that I was imbalanced! As a healer and care provider, I was burnt out. I was in give, give, give mode 24/7. I realized I had to take time back for myself again.
Solution: She suggested I continue to take time for myself and learn how to receive and indulge for myself. And because I had gone so long without taking care of myself it took several Reiki energy sessions with a colleague to get me back in balance. I now make sure to take regular time-outs for myself, or have other healers work on me at least 2x a month. As a healer it was a lesson for me to learn how to receive again. To realize I was worthy of both of giving and receiving.
As a parent, healer, medical professional, or caretaker if you are constantly in give, give, give, mode. Where is the take for you? Where in your life do you receive? What is your simple pleasure?
When you really want to and realize it, you will make time or save money. You will set boundaries for yourself in regards to your spouse, kids, and even your job.
For parents, you are a mother or father. NOT a doormat. Don't feel guilty for taking time-outs for yourself. Don't feel guilty for setting boundaries for yourself for your own kids, its part of their learning. Children are wiser than you believe. Allow your child to see you as a person. Although I have no children yet of my own, I remember what its like to be one. Its important for your children to see you as a person, not just as parent. For example, my mother came home from work and she would often say, give me 30 minutes to myself in the bathtub, that's all I need, then I'll come back down and we can talk about your day.Now prior to this my mom would usually come home right away and start making dinner, switching laundry, checking mail, reminding me to feed the dog and do my homework, and when she was doing all this she was usually pretty irritable and begin to lash out. However, when I started seeing my mother as a person, and allowing her to have her 30 minutes in the tub she was pleasant, refreshed, and irritated by little. Needless to say it made family dinners much more enjoyable. I learned to respect my mother's time for herself. And later as a now adult, love that my mother taught me to see her as a person.
Furthermore, I have often had clients ask me in the past why I wasn't open on Saturdays and how much more business I would have if I was. And gently reminded them that I too had a family, a dog, laundry, and friends- basically I have a life! As a healer, especially an energy healer, to be at your best for yourself and your clients you will not be putting in 60-70 hours work weeks, at least not for long. I had to learn to set boundaries with my clients.
To continue our work it so important to receive for yourself and how you choose to receive is completely up to you, but take it. You are worth it.
From my above stories, the world will not crumble if you say NO and start loving yourself.
To all my fellow healers, its okay to receive now. Start today at this very moment.
Meredith
Suggested Reading:
I'm a firm believe that dis-ease generally roots from imbalances in our
body, which usually begin as imbalances in beliefs or emotions. Louis L
Hay author of You Can Heal Your Life has an entire index of diseases linked to the emotions or thoughts behind them. I highly recommend it as a read.
Seven Healing Chakras by Brenda Davies PhD. Mini meditations to keep the energy chakras in balance leading to greater peace of mind and calm in daily life.
Monday, March 10, 2014
Sunday, December 29, 2013
Romance and Intuition: "You Know When You Know"
The metaphysical community is always talking about Love. Love this. Love that. Love everyone. Unconditional Love. You'd think we we're sitting around singing Kumbaya, perhaps wearing tie-dye shirts and contemplating the meaning and shape of a flower petal.
But what about the nitty-gritty stuff? .The deep-down romance and the soul-baring emotional talks. The ups and downs of romantic love. The love that can one moment make us say, do, and feel things that we've never felt or done before, and the next moment drive us up the wall with frustration, resentment, and anger.
Isn't it great? (smile).
But often times when I get calls to do an intuitive readings. Some of the top questions I'm asked are in regard to romantic relationships:
Is the man or woman I'm currently seeing a good match for me?
Is my soul mate out there?
Where is Mr./Mrs. Right (And why haven't they shown up yet?)
When is my significant other going to be ready to "take the next step?"
How come I keep attracting losers and/or people who are emotionally unavailable?
Is he or she going to ever change their mind on X issue or habit?
Will I ever find love?
How I come feel strongly drawn to this individual? Like a magnetic attraction?
Honestly, I can't even pretend to be a dating "expert." Like many out there, I've read my fair share of books on dating. The books tell you what to do, what not to do, when to call, when not to call, to text or not to text, who text who first, how many dates to go on per week, red flags, what it means when he says this or that, and now there is online dating which is a whole world unto itself ....it all gets very confusing and perplexing.
Also, I've had my fair share of dates and relationships, and probably plenty more to come. Some good ones, where I hit it off with the person right away, and others where I generally wanted to turn and run away as fast as I could. And although being an intuitive makes dating slightly more difficult, it comes in handy in saving my time and my date's time, when I just 'know' and feel when something just is or isn't their romantically with an individual, even just after one date. As my teacher and friend once said, " If you ever want to clear a room of men, just tell them your psychic. smile ladies.
As many of my friends who have found their romantic love have said, "When you know, you know." To illustrate, one of my close friends knew she was going to marry her husband...when they met at the ripe age of 4! She said, "I just knew he was my future husband then and there at the age of 4, I can't really explain how I knew, I just knew." And despite the other directions they took in life, the universe GPS'ed them back together at an appropriate marrying age, and they now have two wonderful children together. (Often times these couples have had past-lives together as husband and wife before in other life times, or some other close relationship like siblings).
Other times I have had experiences where I've felt a strong magnetic attraction to someone and things started off extremely well, only to have the relationship end pretty roughly. People think well your psychic shouldn't you know this would end badly? Trust me people, I wonder that too!
These instant magnetic attractions are usually karmic relationships. Karmic relationships serve a significant purpose and role on a soul and human level. We usually have had past-lives with these individuals with similar themes before. Also many abusive relationships tend to be past-life based. And even if its just days, weeks, or years, the relationship time with this person is to teach certain lessons to you and you to them. These lessons take place on a soul level and on the everyday now human level. Often times as these lessons or roles are played out in this lifetime, triggers occur for an individual to choose to keep going in the pattern or choose self-growth, self-realization, and as this begins to occur the relationship usually begins to unravel, usually for the better.
Or in some circumstances, especially in cases of nasty divorces, if one partner refuses to drop his/her end of the rope either financially or emotionally,and keeps trying to pull the other person back, sometimes the lesson is for the pulled individual to stand-up for oneself and set a boundary to not be pulled back into the relationship. Again, these are usually heavy past-life relationships that are attempting to resolve and rebalance again in this lifetime.
Often times, we'll keep attracting the same kind of people or themes over and over and over until the lessons are learned.
How do we know the lesson has been learned? Because its stop repeating, or swinging back and forth between extremes, and Balance is attained.
Furthermore, when I'm giving a reading and Spirit is speaking through me to answer a clients romantic love questions, it suddenly become clear. All the angst, self-doubt, and gray area that people are experiencing in regards to their love lives is lifted. Sometimes what comes through is satisfying for the client, usually because Spirit is telling them something they are happy to hear such as: Their partner respects and loves them, and is deeply loyal.
And other times the information that Spirit brings through is more sobering. Information that may take the client some time to process and accept. Sometimes its that their partner is probably not going to change, and they are who they are, which leads us into Free Will.
The key to any reading but particularly relationship readings and relationships overall is FREE WILL. For example, a girl or guy calls for a reading. We do the reading and some sobering information in regards to their significant other comes through, I deliver the information, and they ask me, "So...Should I break up with my boyfriend or girlfriend?" In response, I ask, "What do you want?" "Do you think you should?" The initiative must go in the client's decision making court no matter what the circumstances. And truly at the end of the day, whatever a client decides to do with the information they receive from Spirit is completely up to them.
Again, I'm not an expert, but I feel and know intuitively that navigating the high-seas of dating/romance are much easier when you:
- Follow your heart, your gut, and your OWN mind of what you want, need, and desire in your life.
And know that all of these work together all at once on the intuitive level.
-Ask your Angels and the Universe/God to assist in your love life.
It can't hurt right? We're allowed to have little pep talks with God and say,"Hey God, I hope all is well, by the way could you stop sending me x,y,z, flaw of persons I've dated, because it's really getting old. The next guy you send, send that One, and make sure he is awesome in every way."
- Trust that you'll be answered (maybe just not on your timetable, but that can be requested too,can't hurt right).
-No amount of dating books, amount of dates, or friend's advice -replaces your own innate intuition of the way you feel (or don't feel) about someone.
- Sometimes your heart may lead you into something for learning and growth, which may later leave it feeling broken, disappointed, grieving, and angry...at least for a Time.
In Time- you heal, you grow, you make questionable choices, take risks, face fears, feel alone, buy a fish, drink too much wine, take up knitting, begin scheming for world domination..
... and later meet or re-meet someone where you know,when you know.
... (And you'll have acquired a fish, have drunken some really good wine, maybe finished the knitting, and met someone to help you take over the world).
"We're all a little weird. And life is a little weird. And when we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours, we join up with them, and fall into a mutually satisfying weirdness and call it love, true love." - Dr. Seuss.
But what about the nitty-gritty stuff? .The deep-down romance and the soul-baring emotional talks. The ups and downs of romantic love. The love that can one moment make us say, do, and feel things that we've never felt or done before, and the next moment drive us up the wall with frustration, resentment, and anger.
Isn't it great? (smile).
But often times when I get calls to do an intuitive readings. Some of the top questions I'm asked are in regard to romantic relationships:
Is the man or woman I'm currently seeing a good match for me?
Is my soul mate out there?
Where is Mr./Mrs. Right (And why haven't they shown up yet?)
When is my significant other going to be ready to "take the next step?"
How come I keep attracting losers and/or people who are emotionally unavailable?
Is he or she going to ever change their mind on X issue or habit?
Will I ever find love?
How I come feel strongly drawn to this individual? Like a magnetic attraction?
Honestly, I can't even pretend to be a dating "expert." Like many out there, I've read my fair share of books on dating. The books tell you what to do, what not to do, when to call, when not to call, to text or not to text, who text who first, how many dates to go on per week, red flags, what it means when he says this or that, and now there is online dating which is a whole world unto itself ....it all gets very confusing and perplexing.
Also, I've had my fair share of dates and relationships, and probably plenty more to come. Some good ones, where I hit it off with the person right away, and others where I generally wanted to turn and run away as fast as I could. And although being an intuitive makes dating slightly more difficult, it comes in handy in saving my time and my date's time, when I just 'know' and feel when something just is or isn't their romantically with an individual, even just after one date. As my teacher and friend once said, " If you ever want to clear a room of men, just tell them your psychic. smile ladies.
As many of my friends who have found their romantic love have said, "When you know, you know." To illustrate, one of my close friends knew she was going to marry her husband...when they met at the ripe age of 4! She said, "I just knew he was my future husband then and there at the age of 4, I can't really explain how I knew, I just knew." And despite the other directions they took in life, the universe GPS'ed them back together at an appropriate marrying age, and they now have two wonderful children together. (Often times these couples have had past-lives together as husband and wife before in other life times, or some other close relationship like siblings).
Other times I have had experiences where I've felt a strong magnetic attraction to someone and things started off extremely well, only to have the relationship end pretty roughly. People think well your psychic shouldn't you know this would end badly? Trust me people, I wonder that too!
These instant magnetic attractions are usually karmic relationships. Karmic relationships serve a significant purpose and role on a soul and human level. We usually have had past-lives with these individuals with similar themes before. Also many abusive relationships tend to be past-life based. And even if its just days, weeks, or years, the relationship time with this person is to teach certain lessons to you and you to them. These lessons take place on a soul level and on the everyday now human level. Often times as these lessons or roles are played out in this lifetime, triggers occur for an individual to choose to keep going in the pattern or choose self-growth, self-realization, and as this begins to occur the relationship usually begins to unravel, usually for the better.
Or in some circumstances, especially in cases of nasty divorces, if one partner refuses to drop his/her end of the rope either financially or emotionally,and keeps trying to pull the other person back, sometimes the lesson is for the pulled individual to stand-up for oneself and set a boundary to not be pulled back into the relationship. Again, these are usually heavy past-life relationships that are attempting to resolve and rebalance again in this lifetime.
Often times, we'll keep attracting the same kind of people or themes over and over and over until the lessons are learned.
How do we know the lesson has been learned? Because its stop repeating, or swinging back and forth between extremes, and Balance is attained.
Furthermore, when I'm giving a reading and Spirit is speaking through me to answer a clients romantic love questions, it suddenly become clear. All the angst, self-doubt, and gray area that people are experiencing in regards to their love lives is lifted. Sometimes what comes through is satisfying for the client, usually because Spirit is telling them something they are happy to hear such as: Their partner respects and loves them, and is deeply loyal.
And other times the information that Spirit brings through is more sobering. Information that may take the client some time to process and accept. Sometimes its that their partner is probably not going to change, and they are who they are, which leads us into Free Will.
The key to any reading but particularly relationship readings and relationships overall is FREE WILL. For example, a girl or guy calls for a reading. We do the reading and some sobering information in regards to their significant other comes through, I deliver the information, and they ask me, "So...Should I break up with my boyfriend or girlfriend?" In response, I ask, "What do you want?" "Do you think you should?" The initiative must go in the client's decision making court no matter what the circumstances. And truly at the end of the day, whatever a client decides to do with the information they receive from Spirit is completely up to them.
Again, I'm not an expert, but I feel and know intuitively that navigating the high-seas of dating/romance are much easier when you:
- Follow your heart, your gut, and your OWN mind of what you want, need, and desire in your life.
And know that all of these work together all at once on the intuitive level.
-Ask your Angels and the Universe/God to assist in your love life.
It can't hurt right? We're allowed to have little pep talks with God and say,"Hey God, I hope all is well, by the way could you stop sending me x,y,z, flaw of persons I've dated, because it's really getting old. The next guy you send, send that One, and make sure he is awesome in every way."
- Trust that you'll be answered (maybe just not on your timetable, but that can be requested too,can't hurt right).
-No amount of dating books, amount of dates, or friend's advice -replaces your own innate intuition of the way you feel (or don't feel) about someone.
- Sometimes your heart may lead you into something for learning and growth, which may later leave it feeling broken, disappointed, grieving, and angry...at least for a Time.
In Time- you heal, you grow, you make questionable choices, take risks, face fears, feel alone, buy a fish, drink too much wine, take up knitting, begin scheming for world domination..
... and later meet or re-meet someone where you know,when you know.
... (And you'll have acquired a fish, have drunken some really good wine, maybe finished the knitting, and met someone to help you take over the world).
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are all a little weird and life's a little weird, and when we find
someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours, we join up with them
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Saturday, November 30, 2013
Hypnosis 101: What is it? How Does It Work? And What Is the Benefit?
Many people are curious and fascinated by hypnosis. However those same often have reservations, misconceptions, and an overall picture of a person standing over someone with a pendulum telling the subject they will become very sleepy and to do whatever the hypnotist says. For others it is simply getting past the word itself Hypnosis” (Bolduc).
Interesting fact: there are hypnotists that use the pendulum technique (it is real!) and there are many who do not. (Full disclosure: I don’t). What many people think is hypnosis is actually “stage hypnosis”. Stage hypnosis meant purely for entertainment and fun; it is real, and it is pretty cool!
In contrast, hypnotherapy has a long track record of helping clients lose weight, develop more self-confidence, helping police solve crimes, healing past-lives, and healing inner child trauma; making hypnosis a powerful healing and transformative therapeutic tool for the mind, body, and spirit.
Probably the most common misconception of hypnosis is that the hypnotist has control over the subject. This is why many hypnotherapists term achieving a hypnotic state as going “into hypnosis” versus being “under hypnosis”; it is to reassure the client that there is no one “over” them.
Another concern almost all clients have is revealing any inner dark secrets or embarrassing tidbits about themselves. Fact: it is impossible for someone to behave in a way against their own free will, and/or reveal secrets in a state of hypnosis because:
1) In reality at the end of the day all hypnosis is self-hypnosis. Believe it or not, people go into states of hypnosis every day whether they’re aware of it or not. The two most immediate examples are during long highway driving or becoming engrossed in a book.
2)Whether it’s stage hypnosis or hypnotherapy, the same axiom exists: the subject has willingly has agreed to walk on stage and be an active participant, or has voluntarily made an appointment and come with 100% free will to make a shift in their lives, and the client has made the choice that he or she does not want certain personal information exposed.
3) Furthermore, the client has full control over how deep into hypnosis he or she wants to go. Hypothetically, if I had total and complete control “over” my clients, they’d all be dropping weight in three days and never pick up a cigarette again!
4) At the end of the day it’s all based on free will. Hypnosis cannot take away one’s free will since it is the will of the person’s mind who is allowing them to go into hypnosis in the first place.
I often am asked HOW is hypnosis done? How do I hypnotize someone?
My style of hypnosis is taking my clients through guided-visual imagery and breathing techniques and guiding clients to basically get out of their own way. The conscious mind-Ego is a wonderful driver and ambitious, however it can also hinder us. So, while going into hypnosis I’m temporarily asking the client to give their conscious mind a break, so their subconscious can step up and absorb the suggestions being spoken. The subconscious is where all are true desires lie and it is also where we hold all our own answers.
There is no right or wrong way to help someone achieve a hypnotic state; it’s just a matter of the hypnotherapists’ training, background, and style.
For instance, a popular and effective method of inducing a subject into hypnosis is having the client imagine a set of stairs, in which each step represents a deeper and deeper level of relaxation. Or if a client has a step-phobia I would take them through a more well-suited guided visualization.
So if all hypnosis is self-hypnosis what exactly is the role of the “hypnotherapist”?
I once had a mentor tell me that I “...wasn’t qualified to be doing hypnosis, since I didn’t have a degree in psychology”, and they “...wouldn’t trust someone who didn’t to hypnotize them…” Admittedly, this stung a bit and I was rather stunned, and was unsure how to process these statements since it came from an individual I respect and trusted. However, it got my wheels turning. What makes hypnotherapy different from a general mainstream therapist? And what and how makes someone “qualified”? A degree? Is it truly the letters behind their name? Or is the percentage they scored on the passing exam? Or is it something deeper than that?
In response, my teacher and mentor, Dr. Allen Chips, dubbed as the “Hypno Buddha” in the Hypnosis community, described that the relationship between client and transpersonal hypnotherapist as, “Divine, it is a relationship of personal growth for both therapist and client, and each client brought through the door is brought by higher forces.” That being said if you feel called to pursue the work of hypnosis then pursue it for your own self -healing and others. The clients that walk through the door are clients who are drawn to you on some level, like attracting like. And as always you trust your intuition by knowing and exercising your limitations.
Furthermore, the hypnotherapist’s role (in my belief) is as follows:
1) Hold sacred space for their client one hundred percent of the time with the highest intention of good. This space is held from the time the client walks in the door and fills out an intake form to the time the client is putting their shoes back on and walking out my door.
2) I’m simply guide, a facilitator. Sometimes people think the therapist does all the work and if the client isn’t losing weight or achieving a particular goal/end result right away, it is something at fault with the therapist. In my belief there is equal exchange of energy between the client and hypnotherapist that is taking place while they are in session. I truly believe and have seen with my own eyes that a hypnotherapist who shows up with 100% focus attention and is on their “A-game” for their client will generally tend to have a client is 100% satisfied with their session.
And sometimes holding 100% sacred space for a client has even means being 100% honest, and referring them out to someone who is a better fit. For example, I had a couple who came into my office for fertility and conception. After explaining to me their situation, I realized this couple was not for me. Not because they were bad people, or anything of that matter. However, I knew in my heart I would not be able to hold 100% sacred space for this couple in their journey to conceiving. I had myself have no children (yet) and am not in that phase of my life where I could begin to understand the complexities of fertility. So, I was honest with myself and my client and referred them out. As a result, they found a hypnotherapist who specialized in hypno-birthing and are doing extremely well.
At the end of the day, I firmly believe a divine and personal rapport is established between hypnotherapist and client, a powerful and transformative exchange of energy for both parties.
Is hypnosis for everyone?
I’ll be honest, I’m not sure. Optimistically, I want to say yes it is! The most recent research says that 91% of the population is susceptible to hypnosis. However, it is important to acknowledge that not everyone who tried hypnosis is satisfied with the end result. When people are ready to do try hypnosis and make the change, they’re ready, plain and simple.
To illustrate, when I have spouses or significant others call on behalf of their partner, I tend to hold a strict policy that their spouse must make their own appointment and if they’re ready to talk to call me. People may think Geez Meredith, why’re such a hard-nose about this? It’s rooted in my belief when people are ready to do their OWN healing, they’ll make the call and make their own appointment. It is simply a waste of the spouse’s time and my time, if they really don’t want to be there in the first place, since actively they’re not coming upon their own free will, but rather another’s will. And let’s get real time is valuable.
Success rates?
I don’t believe in success rates because in my opinion each client is unique and there is no one-size fits all formula. As Henry Leo Bolduc stated, “Hypnosis is like love, everyone experiences it differently.” For example, some people feel and see immediate results in themselves after a session, while others may take more sessions over a longer period of time. And then there are the rare times when a client has declared they’ve had zero benefits from hypnosis for various reasons. This is usually due to lack of rapport or trust, or they in reality didn’t really want to be there in the first place, hence my strict ‘spouse must call and make own appointment’ policy.
Why Hypnotherapy, what makes it beneficial?
Hypnotherapy is not “therapy” in the mainstream sense that it’s thought of, and it has many therapeutic benefits. Often times, hypnotherapy is a client’s last resort when they’ve generally exhausted all other options. It should be noted that during the initial client interview of the first session the interview can often run like a general ‘talk therapy’ session.
Benefit 1) Many people report feeling grounded, calm, and centered, and really relaxed after a hypnosis session. Living in the Washington DC area, this is always nice to hear from a client!
Benefit 2) Every 1 hour of hypnosis is an equivalent to three hours of deep REM sleep (Bennet).
Benefit 3) Although talk therapy has many benefits and is valuable, clients can move into the past via hypnosis and partake in deep healing on a super conscious and subconscious level. Often times clients are able to resolve an issue that generally would’ve been 15 years of talk therapy in a few sessions of hypnosis.
Benefit 4) Hypnotic regression allows clients to go to the origin of an issue whether it be emotional, mental, physical, or spiritual. Often times in the acknowledgment of the root cause comes healing on various levels.
Benefit 5) Hypnotherapy if done by a certified hypnotherapist only, does not count as “therapy” therefore if you have a security clearance or work in a profession where going to a psychologist or therapist would affect job qualifications, hypnosis puts you and your paycheck in the clear.
To Learn More About Hypnotherapy
Suggested Reading
- Clinical Hypnotherapy: A Transpersonal Approach By Dr. Allen Chips.
- Self-Hypnosis By Henry Leo Bolduc
Tuesday, September 24, 2013
Words As The New Power Tool
"Sticks and stones may break my bones, but your words will never hurt me."
Most of us have heard this children's rhyme at least some point in childhood. And well if you haven't...now you have. (smile) The power of the word is incredibly strong. Stronger, I feel than most people realize. The words we speak and receive have a powerful effect on us, so much so that they can build us up, and like for many of us, have brought us down. Words also send a powerful message to the universe from us- the ultimate determinates of our destiny- broadcasting to the public radio of the universe what we WANT. In turn the universe brings us what we speak. Also, what we speak once started as a thought, and thoughts are things, and things travel! What we speak travels out to the universe! Now, speaking what we want can be hard at times because it truly requires us to be honest with ourselves. Sometimes, that means we have to sift through a lot of the other crap people told us we should, could, or could not have/do/be. And of course, we've all had moments where we've said one thing and done another (ladies you know exactly what I'm talking about)
Conjointly the law of attraction constantly mentions Like Attracts Like, or many of you may be more familiar with the saying "birds of a feather flock together."
For example, up until now, more often than not I really "didn't know" what I wanted in relationships. What did I end up with? Guys who didn't know what they wanted either! Then I'd get all heart-broken and angry that this guy, "Didn't know what he wanted". Hey guess what?! Like Attracts Like!
I finally had to sit down, be honest with myself on what I WANT! For starters, I want someone who is ultimately compatible with me and who wants the same things as me! Marriage, kids, and sure enough the guys who didn't know what they wanted began to disappear very quickly out of the picture! Bye!
My mentor and teacher, Linda Schiller-Hanna, suggested that her students spin challenges in their lives into this mantra instead: "Up until now, I struggled with x (whatever issue is at hand). Or simply speak of the issue in the past-tense, or as improved!
When I first started my healing practice, I'll be honest I was not making money. When I first began, I didn't really think of the "cost" factor, just that I love to spread my joy in healing. And in the first year of my business often times I was actually busting my tail selling bridal dresses Thursday to Sunday, and interning the other days of the week, and seeing clients on the side. For awhile I was putting in about 60-70 hours a week. (Although selling bridal dresses sounds fun, each of them apiece is about 30-40lbs of material, and I was lifting about 4-6 at a time).
One day I woke up and I realized. This sucks! I don't want to work 60-70 hours a week! I want to be dedicated in my work.
So I sat down and had a Scarlett O'Hara moment with the universe. In a gist it went something like this, "Look here universe, I'm here to do what you want me to do, every experience in my life has led me up to this point, I'm here to do what you need me to do, on certain conditions- I will have shelter, I will not starve, and I will make more than enough to take care of myself and be able to enjoy my the abundance in healing."
The feeling of reply was: "Okay, we have received your wants, however you need to uphold YOUR end. Leave the bridal store, leave the internship, we will provide. JUMP both feet forward into what you love."
It took a lot of faith and courage, and convincing my Asian mom that I was not going to be working on Capitol Hill, or any federal government agency for that matter, nor would I be going to law school or grad school. I figure she's okay with it now, since I'm still here alive, typing this blog away.
So, I finished out my internship and no longer pursued a job there. I gave my notice to the bridal store and left a few weeks later.
I'd be lying if I said the results were immediate, that all of sudden I had an influx of hundreds upon hundreds of clients, and I've never worked a seasonal job since. But I upheld my end of the bargain, and now I receive all those that are ready to heal. My client flow comes in ebbs and flows, and I actually like it this way (the universe knows me well), and for now I occasionally work seasonal jobs (but only if they have a specific start and end date).
I write this because I see, feel, and know so many out there who have the talent to succeed at what they do: whether it be as a dancer, a baker, a teacher, writer, a healer, entrepreneur, inventor or pilot etc. I hear them speak with passion about their ideas and their true passions, yet they choose to stay (for now) in a place that it is not in alignment with their passion! Please know, you will be taken care of following what you love! Take the leap! It won't always be easy and sometimes money still gets iffy, but speak your words of what you WANT to the universe, and you will be provided for!
Be honest with what you WANT and speak it to the universe.
(Trust me, It's listening!)
As always Speak Your Truth as the Truth will set you free.
Most of us have heard this children's rhyme at least some point in childhood. And well if you haven't...now you have. (smile) The power of the word is incredibly strong. Stronger, I feel than most people realize. The words we speak and receive have a powerful effect on us, so much so that they can build us up, and like for many of us, have brought us down. Words also send a powerful message to the universe from us- the ultimate determinates of our destiny- broadcasting to the public radio of the universe what we WANT. In turn the universe brings us what we speak. Also, what we speak once started as a thought, and thoughts are things, and things travel! What we speak travels out to the universe! Now, speaking what we want can be hard at times because it truly requires us to be honest with ourselves. Sometimes, that means we have to sift through a lot of the other crap people told us we should, could, or could not have/do/be. And of course, we've all had moments where we've said one thing and done another (ladies you know exactly what I'm talking about)
Conjointly the law of attraction constantly mentions Like Attracts Like, or many of you may be more familiar with the saying "birds of a feather flock together."
For example, up until now, more often than not I really "didn't know" what I wanted in relationships. What did I end up with? Guys who didn't know what they wanted either! Then I'd get all heart-broken and angry that this guy, "Didn't know what he wanted". Hey guess what?! Like Attracts Like!
I finally had to sit down, be honest with myself on what I WANT! For starters, I want someone who is ultimately compatible with me and who wants the same things as me! Marriage, kids, and sure enough the guys who didn't know what they wanted began to disappear very quickly out of the picture! Bye!
My mentor and teacher, Linda Schiller-Hanna, suggested that her students spin challenges in their lives into this mantra instead: "Up until now, I struggled with x (whatever issue is at hand). Or simply speak of the issue in the past-tense, or as improved!
When I first started my healing practice, I'll be honest I was not making money. When I first began, I didn't really think of the "cost" factor, just that I love to spread my joy in healing. And in the first year of my business often times I was actually busting my tail selling bridal dresses Thursday to Sunday, and interning the other days of the week, and seeing clients on the side. For awhile I was putting in about 60-70 hours a week. (Although selling bridal dresses sounds fun, each of them apiece is about 30-40lbs of material, and I was lifting about 4-6 at a time).
One day I woke up and I realized. This sucks! I don't want to work 60-70 hours a week! I want to be dedicated in my work.
So I sat down and had a Scarlett O'Hara moment with the universe. In a gist it went something like this, "Look here universe, I'm here to do what you want me to do, every experience in my life has led me up to this point, I'm here to do what you need me to do, on certain conditions- I will have shelter, I will not starve, and I will make more than enough to take care of myself and be able to enjoy my the abundance in healing."
The feeling of reply was: "Okay, we have received your wants, however you need to uphold YOUR end. Leave the bridal store, leave the internship, we will provide. JUMP both feet forward into what you love."
It took a lot of faith and courage, and convincing my Asian mom that I was not going to be working on Capitol Hill, or any federal government agency for that matter, nor would I be going to law school or grad school. I figure she's okay with it now, since I'm still here alive, typing this blog away.
So, I finished out my internship and no longer pursued a job there. I gave my notice to the bridal store and left a few weeks later.
I'd be lying if I said the results were immediate, that all of sudden I had an influx of hundreds upon hundreds of clients, and I've never worked a seasonal job since. But I upheld my end of the bargain, and now I receive all those that are ready to heal. My client flow comes in ebbs and flows, and I actually like it this way (the universe knows me well), and for now I occasionally work seasonal jobs (but only if they have a specific start and end date).
I write this because I see, feel, and know so many out there who have the talent to succeed at what they do: whether it be as a dancer, a baker, a teacher, writer, a healer, entrepreneur, inventor or pilot etc. I hear them speak with passion about their ideas and their true passions, yet they choose to stay (for now) in a place that it is not in alignment with their passion! Please know, you will be taken care of following what you love! Take the leap! It won't always be easy and sometimes money still gets iffy, but speak your words of what you WANT to the universe, and you will be provided for!
Be honest with what you WANT and speak it to the universe.
(Trust me, It's listening!)
As always Speak Your Truth as the Truth will set you free.
Saturday, February 23, 2013
Ego and Spirit: Striking The Balance
I'm a firm believer that every human being on this planet has the ability to access their inner-knowing, or intuition. Intuitives a vast variety of people: working mothers, single parents, librarians, police officers, the tellers at the bank, small business owners, marathon runners, teachers, and lawmakers- basically everyone has this inborn ability! Intuitives are everyone!
Being a rather 'in-tune' intuitive can sometimes feel like walking a tight a rope between two worlds: Ego and Spirit. And it isn't always easy to maintain ones balance between the two!
Ego is what some would call the "normie" world. We need because it keeps us grounded and pushes us to achieve max potential. Ego is essentially our self-esteem.
Spirit is what leads us to trust that, "Everything will be okay"and a, "Build it and they will come mentality." Spirit helps us establish a trust that the higher powers will take care of everything, no matter how big or small. Spirit is geared by Hope, Faith, Love, and Peace.
However, people can walk too heavily in either world.
For example, walking too heavily in the Ego world can lead to a plaguing negativity mind set. The mind set of "There is never enough ", "I hate my job but I do it because it pays the bills and keeps food on the table." Or "I can't do what I really love because my parents said that's not a real career." They tend to get caught up in fear, obsessive worrying, and competition. This isn't to say that paying the bills, feeding a family, and being anxious about the next career move isn't a priority, but it is not okay when it consumes one's life, and pulls us away from enjoying life! And many people who tend to live in this lifestyle for too long eventually feel, become burned out, or dis-ease set's in on at the physical level for no apparent reason.
The same goes for Spirit. Imbalance in Spirit can cause individuals to be ungrounded, airy-fairy, too "out there", and eventually these individuals can develop a lack in an inability to relate to people on a realistic and interpersonal level, and become isolated.
The Balance between the two is essential for our soul growth, general happiness, and even our health! I will be honest even from my own life experience, maintaining the balance isn't' always easy, which why I equated it to walking a tight-rope!
For example, I used to enjoy Black Friday and After Christmas Day shopping. I was one of the proud few who was awake at 4AM ready to hit the bargain sales in at the mall. As a began walking around the mall with the hundreds of other shoppers, I began to feel sweaty, closed-in, nervous, anxious, and in just generally 'on-edge'. After walking around like this for about an hour I finally stopped and centered myself. I asked myself is this me or other people? The reply: other people, definitley! And haul ass out of there!" I turned and looked at my date and said, "I have to get out of here!" As soon as we left the parking lot, I could feel the energy of the other people melt away. It was from this experience I learned to not forget to acknowledge my sensitive/spirit side of myself and better protect myself psychically from other people's energy.
Another example is balancing Spirit. I'm a big believer in manifesting one's desires. One day as I was driving down the road and I began to get really worried about money. I could feel my body tense, my breathe shorten, and generally just feel my vibration lower. Up until this point, I had been doing lots of manifestation meditation work, so I was surprised when this wave of worry hit me. After a few moments of negative thinking, I though to myself wait a second, I can't sit here and say woe is me, I have to do take responsibility for this! Out loud I said to myself, "Okay, wait, I acknowledge that I can manifest, but I also acknowledge my need to be more assertive in my actions in my quest for financial security." So, as much as I was in a state of allowance and abundance, I also had to get grounded in the reality of seeking out opportunities.
Recently, I attended a workshop with a good friend on the Enneagram. The Enneagram is typically used as a personality profile by employers and can be equated to the Myers-Briggs test. However, what makes the workings of the Enneagram unique is that it is able to delve deeper below the personality and into the essence of a person. The Enneagram can assist an individual discover what qualities in their Ego disconnect them from being better connected to Spirit, and even better can give insight in how to bring it back into Balance!
After my own experience I think the benefits of the Ennegram are worthwhile.
It also has wonderful benefits for any kind of relationship dynamic.
I wanted to write about this topic long ago, however my guides urged me not to, and very clearly stated, "You have to live your life!" And as usual, they were right! As much I wanted to share every single psychic experience that occurs from time to time, my guides made it clear that living life is important! Yes, meditation, forgiveness exercises, communicating with animals are all fine and dandy, but hey, returning my library books on time, hitting the gym, and washing my socks is just as important too!
"For man may separate himself from God-the Spirit- but the spirit does not separate from man."
- Edgar Caycle
For those who are interested in learning more about the Enneagram I highly recommend Chris Wright.
Contact
Chris Wright30@gmail.com
Being a rather 'in-tune' intuitive can sometimes feel like walking a tight a rope between two worlds: Ego and Spirit. And it isn't always easy to maintain ones balance between the two!
Ego is what some would call the "normie" world. We need because it keeps us grounded and pushes us to achieve max potential. Ego is essentially our self-esteem.
Spirit is what leads us to trust that, "Everything will be okay"and a, "Build it and they will come mentality." Spirit helps us establish a trust that the higher powers will take care of everything, no matter how big or small. Spirit is geared by Hope, Faith, Love, and Peace.
However, people can walk too heavily in either world.
For example, walking too heavily in the Ego world can lead to a plaguing negativity mind set. The mind set of "There is never enough ", "I hate my job but I do it because it pays the bills and keeps food on the table." Or "I can't do what I really love because my parents said that's not a real career." They tend to get caught up in fear, obsessive worrying, and competition. This isn't to say that paying the bills, feeding a family, and being anxious about the next career move isn't a priority, but it is not okay when it consumes one's life, and pulls us away from enjoying life! And many people who tend to live in this lifestyle for too long eventually feel, become burned out, or dis-ease set's in on at the physical level for no apparent reason.
The same goes for Spirit. Imbalance in Spirit can cause individuals to be ungrounded, airy-fairy, too "out there", and eventually these individuals can develop a lack in an inability to relate to people on a realistic and interpersonal level, and become isolated.
The Balance between the two is essential for our soul growth, general happiness, and even our health! I will be honest even from my own life experience, maintaining the balance isn't' always easy, which why I equated it to walking a tight-rope!
For example, I used to enjoy Black Friday and After Christmas Day shopping. I was one of the proud few who was awake at 4AM ready to hit the bargain sales in at the mall. As a began walking around the mall with the hundreds of other shoppers, I began to feel sweaty, closed-in, nervous, anxious, and in just generally 'on-edge'. After walking around like this for about an hour I finally stopped and centered myself. I asked myself is this me or other people? The reply: other people, definitley! And haul ass out of there!" I turned and looked at my date and said, "I have to get out of here!" As soon as we left the parking lot, I could feel the energy of the other people melt away. It was from this experience I learned to not forget to acknowledge my sensitive/spirit side of myself and better protect myself psychically from other people's energy.
Another example is balancing Spirit. I'm a big believer in manifesting one's desires. One day as I was driving down the road and I began to get really worried about money. I could feel my body tense, my breathe shorten, and generally just feel my vibration lower. Up until this point, I had been doing lots of manifestation meditation work, so I was surprised when this wave of worry hit me. After a few moments of negative thinking, I though to myself wait a second, I can't sit here and say woe is me, I have to do take responsibility for this! Out loud I said to myself, "Okay, wait, I acknowledge that I can manifest, but I also acknowledge my need to be more assertive in my actions in my quest for financial security." So, as much as I was in a state of allowance and abundance, I also had to get grounded in the reality of seeking out opportunities.
Recently, I attended a workshop with a good friend on the Enneagram. The Enneagram is typically used as a personality profile by employers and can be equated to the Myers-Briggs test. However, what makes the workings of the Enneagram unique is that it is able to delve deeper below the personality and into the essence of a person. The Enneagram can assist an individual discover what qualities in their Ego disconnect them from being better connected to Spirit, and even better can give insight in how to bring it back into Balance!
After my own experience I think the benefits of the Ennegram are worthwhile.
It also has wonderful benefits for any kind of relationship dynamic.
I wanted to write about this topic long ago, however my guides urged me not to, and very clearly stated, "You have to live your life!" And as usual, they were right! As much I wanted to share every single psychic experience that occurs from time to time, my guides made it clear that living life is important! Yes, meditation, forgiveness exercises, communicating with animals are all fine and dandy, but hey, returning my library books on time, hitting the gym, and washing my socks is just as important too!
"For man may separate himself from God-the Spirit- but the spirit does not separate from man."
- Edgar Caycle
For those who are interested in learning more about the Enneagram I highly recommend Chris Wright.
Contact
Chris Wright30@gmail.com
Wednesday, November 14, 2012
10. The Benefits of Cleansing- Everything.
Cleansing is done to assist in releasing dense energy. Usually, this is dense energy that is no longer beneficial to an individual. Cleansing can be done all levels: physical, mental-emotional, and spiritual. The point of cleansing is to evolve and move an individual FORWARD- on all of these levels, if the individual so desires. The mind and body and spirit connection is a simple interconnection that we as humans tend to make complex because of stored dense energy.
Physical
First, lets address our physical vehicle: the human body. Physical cleansing can be done on the most basic level: Food! The old saying, "You are what you eat," can definitely be applied here. One example of physical cleansing is food-based cleanse diets.
Prior to participating in a food-based cleansing regimen the individual probably ate a lot of "dense energy" foods: sugars, starches, processed meats heavy with antibodies and chemicals, complex carbohydrates, and not enough vegetables.
In the food-based cleanse diet the individual is generally suggested to eliminate or modify the intake of "complex" and dense energy food items such as sugar. In turn, they are taking their bodies back to the basics: meats, vegetables, nuts, more water, and moderated carbohydrate intake.
Under proper nutritional guidance, many people I've met who have participated in food-based cleansing diets are usually very satisfied with the results: weight loss, less fatigue, more energy, chronic and/or acute conditions lessening or resolving themselves, better libido, etc.
More importantly, many report a higher self-esteem and self-confidence. The saying, "Look good, feel good," could most certainly be applied.
Mental-Emotional
Although, physical changes in appearance can morph an individual's outlook on life, it is also important to address the mental-emotional aspect of ourselves. Many people wonder how they can cleanse on a mental-emotional level. Clearly, we cannot scrub our memory banks clean (although that would be much easier). We acquire much dense energy in the mental-emotional area due to bad or negative experiences in our lifetime, whether they occurred to ourselves or another.
This stored dense energy usually plays out in repetitive patterns in our lives, swinging back and forth between one extreme and another, and/ or we repress this dense energy so deeply it surfaces in the physical field causing illness, or in the spiritual field causing lack of higher purpose and direction. The benefit of releasing the dense energy will help us come back to the center and regain balance.
Myself and other practitioners have observed in practice, have been told by our respective spirit guides, and gone through the experience ourselves; that the most most effective method thus far is Forgiving. If we can forgive another person or situation, the mental-emotional residue of dense energy can be released, thus propelling a person forward to what they truly desire- better health, love, abundance, truly an endless amount of possibilities.
* Note: Forgiveness does not mean that you have to be friends with the 'offending' person, or even speak to them. To paraphrase a mentor of mine, "Jesus says to turn the other cheek, however after awhile your cheek begins to get rather sore, make it easy on yourself, you can forgive and love that person... from a distance."
So how can you forgive a person without having to make direct contact?
Forgiveness Exercise/ Meditation
Please read completely through!
-Turn off your phone, gadgets, make sure any outside distractions are taken care of: children, significant other, pets etc.
-Sit down ( or else you'll fall asleep!) in a chair with feet flat on the floor.
-Take three deep breaths.
-Use your vivid imagination to clearly visualize this person in front of you.
-Can you see or feel if there are any 'cords' attaching you to each other?
(Tip: If you cannot see or feel the cords, then if you could see or feel them where would these cords be?)
- Taking an object of your choice: scissors, an ax, chain-saw, pliers, Archangel Michael's sword of Truth, etc CUT these cords.Cut these cords as fast or as slow as you would like. If it is your first time cutting cords, take your time.
*Note: By cutting these cords, you are not "cutting" person out of your life,nor are you physically harming them, you simply are un-attaching their energy from you, so you can find forgiveness, or have a clearer perspective in a emotionally charged situation to make a better decision for YOU.
- Check and make sure all cords are removed, or any other foreign objects, beliefs, or negative words aimed your way this person may have placed onto you.
- Now, hand the cords and whatever else back to that person.
If you are feeling especially forgiving you can put everything into a box, gift wrap it really pretty, and gently hand it back to them.
-What is their reaction?
(Tip: If they attempt to attach more cords, keep cutting!)
- Say whatever you need to say to this person either to yourself or out loud These can be words of anger, words of love, and/or forgiveness.
- Finally, make a shield around you from this person. It can be any kind of shield: a wall, a plexiglass container over you, or even a transparent shield*
The Transparent Shield: The transparent shield is one I do for myself and others.
It is a truly a shield of ultimate forgiveness, it is not only protective but encouraging the other person to do their OWN healing. Unlike other shields, it is transparent because my intention is not to "block" the person out of my life completely, yet instead to assist them in healing their own wounds.
I visualize this shield as literally a wall of energy, usually it is gold. My side of the wall protects me. The other side of the wall is healing for the other person. So when a person comes up to the shield of energy and touches it they will turn away to do their own healing on their own time.
*Note: Some people in your life may try to break this wall down primarily because 1. They want to reattach and 2. They have no desire to do their own healing. I have had experiences where one individual tried to kick my shield down. He kicked and screamed and cried. I simply held my shield in place with calm. After time, he grew tired and turned away, hopefully to do his own healing on his own time.
This is a very powerful exercise. It can be done as many times as needed. Also, it can be done to anyone. That being said when breaking an energetic connection, the person you are cutting cords from WILL feel the shift of energy. ***Do not be surprised if they attempt to make contact with you shortly after***
By doing the above exercise many people find that they are less and less angry, worried, or upset. They have a more balanced perspective on a particular situation, and are better able to approach an emotionally charged situation or person with a calm outlook.
As a result, we have more time to focus on what we truly desire and take the proper proactive steps to getting what we truly desire and making more room from what DOES benefit us.
Spiritual
The physical cleansing and mental-emotional cleansing takes us up into the point of our own divine Spirit within each of us. By physically cleansing whether it be with food, quitting smoking, losing weight, or simply becoming more aware of what we put in the body, we have honored our physical vehicle. The mental-emotional cleansing allows us to release many of the life-events, people, and decisions of others we have no control over, allowing us to have more time to focus on ourselves and our desires, thus allowing us to fully move into Spirit.
Spirit, plainly put, is our essence. It's what were are here on earth for. When we lack spirit we lack direction and purpose. To illustrate, we may see all the doors closing and not the doors that are already open for us. When we access spirit regularly and operate more from Spirit and less from Ego and worry, we have a greater amount of faith, hope, and better ability to love and forgive ourselves and other, we begin to see and walk through the open doors. Our Spirit is already "clean" so to speak. It has no flaws, prejudices, or ulterior motives- it's pure Joy and Love.
So how can an individual better access the Spirit within them?
The answer is simple Meditate. Now, when I say meditate many people have this misconception that they must sit still for hours and hours on end, "stilling there mind", not worrying, sitting in an uncomfortable position, and this just sounds incredibly hard, or impossible. Meditation is time for you to re-center and re-ground, so do it the way you please, it simply takes practice. Even if you can only do it in your car for five minutes prior to work or while sitting on the metro, some is better than none. When in meditation we can access our higher-self and spirit guides to give us direction and purpose to our lives, or simply questions such as, "What do I need to do more of?" The answers may come as explicit words, images, or even just gut-feelings to "go here" and "do this" and "talk to this person". The more and more you trust what you receive from Spirit, the more things will coincidentally "fall into place" for you in your life.
Some ideas to get you jump-started in meditation:
1. Enjoy the Sun
For 15 minutes or so, sit facing the sun, either outside or by a window. Just breathe and feel the sun's energy moving through you. Just simply throw your cares and worries to the sun. More importantly, the sun is an energetic cleanser!
2. Purchase a meditation CD.
There are many kinds of meditation CDs.
If you are auditory then one with music might be more to your liking.
If you are a feeler, then a meditation CD with breathing exercises would probably benefit you more.
If you are visual a guided visual imagery CD or a piece art or religious figure may help you focus more.
3. Find an author who writes about accessing Spirit
- Pick one who resonates with you.Generally these authors can be found in the "New Age" or religious section of the bookstore.
As an individual begins to work on these interconnected aspects of themselves, the other aspects soon desire to be in balance as well. So, these aspects can be worked on in any order and as many as you want at any given time. Eventually, they will all desire to be in balance and harmony!
Below are 2 Suggestions for "Quickie Cleansing"
These cleansing out dense energy in all 3 aspects.
1. A Hot Bath with LOTS of Epsom Salt.
2. Sage with Intention
-Stick or Spray.
Be warned it smells like marijuana when burned, so if you live in a shared living arrangements I recommend the spray.
Sage with intent to cleanse dense energy out! Anything can bring dense energy in: arguments with a roommate, a toxic or negative person, anything that shifts the balance of peace and harmony in your life. Once you sage, you will notice the difference in how you and the room/house feel- lighter!
*Highly suggest purchasing a How-To book on Saging, which can be found at most book stores.
(If you just wave the stick around with no intention it won't help!)
Physical
First, lets address our physical vehicle: the human body. Physical cleansing can be done on the most basic level: Food! The old saying, "You are what you eat," can definitely be applied here. One example of physical cleansing is food-based cleanse diets.
Prior to participating in a food-based cleansing regimen the individual probably ate a lot of "dense energy" foods: sugars, starches, processed meats heavy with antibodies and chemicals, complex carbohydrates, and not enough vegetables.
In the food-based cleanse diet the individual is generally suggested to eliminate or modify the intake of "complex" and dense energy food items such as sugar. In turn, they are taking their bodies back to the basics: meats, vegetables, nuts, more water, and moderated carbohydrate intake.
Under proper nutritional guidance, many people I've met who have participated in food-based cleansing diets are usually very satisfied with the results: weight loss, less fatigue, more energy, chronic and/or acute conditions lessening or resolving themselves, better libido, etc.
More importantly, many report a higher self-esteem and self-confidence. The saying, "Look good, feel good," could most certainly be applied.
Mental-Emotional
Although, physical changes in appearance can morph an individual's outlook on life, it is also important to address the mental-emotional aspect of ourselves. Many people wonder how they can cleanse on a mental-emotional level. Clearly, we cannot scrub our memory banks clean (although that would be much easier). We acquire much dense energy in the mental-emotional area due to bad or negative experiences in our lifetime, whether they occurred to ourselves or another.
This stored dense energy usually plays out in repetitive patterns in our lives, swinging back and forth between one extreme and another, and/ or we repress this dense energy so deeply it surfaces in the physical field causing illness, or in the spiritual field causing lack of higher purpose and direction. The benefit of releasing the dense energy will help us come back to the center and regain balance.
Myself and other practitioners have observed in practice, have been told by our respective spirit guides, and gone through the experience ourselves; that the most most effective method thus far is Forgiving. If we can forgive another person or situation, the mental-emotional residue of dense energy can be released, thus propelling a person forward to what they truly desire- better health, love, abundance, truly an endless amount of possibilities.
* Note: Forgiveness does not mean that you have to be friends with the 'offending' person, or even speak to them. To paraphrase a mentor of mine, "Jesus says to turn the other cheek, however after awhile your cheek begins to get rather sore, make it easy on yourself, you can forgive and love that person... from a distance."
So how can you forgive a person without having to make direct contact?
Forgiveness Exercise/ Meditation
Please read completely through!
-Turn off your phone, gadgets, make sure any outside distractions are taken care of: children, significant other, pets etc.
-Sit down ( or else you'll fall asleep!) in a chair with feet flat on the floor.
-Take three deep breaths.
-Use your vivid imagination to clearly visualize this person in front of you.
-Can you see or feel if there are any 'cords' attaching you to each other?
(Tip: If you cannot see or feel the cords, then if you could see or feel them where would these cords be?)
- Taking an object of your choice: scissors, an ax, chain-saw, pliers, Archangel Michael's sword of Truth, etc CUT these cords.Cut these cords as fast or as slow as you would like. If it is your first time cutting cords, take your time.
*Note: By cutting these cords, you are not "cutting" person out of your life,nor are you physically harming them, you simply are un-attaching their energy from you, so you can find forgiveness, or have a clearer perspective in a emotionally charged situation to make a better decision for YOU.
- Check and make sure all cords are removed, or any other foreign objects, beliefs, or negative words aimed your way this person may have placed onto you.
- Now, hand the cords and whatever else back to that person.
If you are feeling especially forgiving you can put everything into a box, gift wrap it really pretty, and gently hand it back to them.
-What is their reaction?
(Tip: If they attempt to attach more cords, keep cutting!)
- Say whatever you need to say to this person either to yourself or out loud These can be words of anger, words of love, and/or forgiveness.
- Finally, make a shield around you from this person. It can be any kind of shield: a wall, a plexiglass container over you, or even a transparent shield*
The Transparent Shield: The transparent shield is one I do for myself and others.
It is a truly a shield of ultimate forgiveness, it is not only protective but encouraging the other person to do their OWN healing. Unlike other shields, it is transparent because my intention is not to "block" the person out of my life completely, yet instead to assist them in healing their own wounds.
I visualize this shield as literally a wall of energy, usually it is gold. My side of the wall protects me. The other side of the wall is healing for the other person. So when a person comes up to the shield of energy and touches it they will turn away to do their own healing on their own time.
*Note: Some people in your life may try to break this wall down primarily because 1. They want to reattach and 2. They have no desire to do their own healing. I have had experiences where one individual tried to kick my shield down. He kicked and screamed and cried. I simply held my shield in place with calm. After time, he grew tired and turned away, hopefully to do his own healing on his own time.
This is a very powerful exercise. It can be done as many times as needed. Also, it can be done to anyone. That being said when breaking an energetic connection, the person you are cutting cords from WILL feel the shift of energy. ***Do not be surprised if they attempt to make contact with you shortly after***
By doing the above exercise many people find that they are less and less angry, worried, or upset. They have a more balanced perspective on a particular situation, and are better able to approach an emotionally charged situation or person with a calm outlook.
As a result, we have more time to focus on what we truly desire and take the proper proactive steps to getting what we truly desire and making more room from what DOES benefit us.
Spiritual
The physical cleansing and mental-emotional cleansing takes us up into the point of our own divine Spirit within each of us. By physically cleansing whether it be with food, quitting smoking, losing weight, or simply becoming more aware of what we put in the body, we have honored our physical vehicle. The mental-emotional cleansing allows us to release many of the life-events, people, and decisions of others we have no control over, allowing us to have more time to focus on ourselves and our desires, thus allowing us to fully move into Spirit.
Spirit, plainly put, is our essence. It's what were are here on earth for. When we lack spirit we lack direction and purpose. To illustrate, we may see all the doors closing and not the doors that are already open for us. When we access spirit regularly and operate more from Spirit and less from Ego and worry, we have a greater amount of faith, hope, and better ability to love and forgive ourselves and other, we begin to see and walk through the open doors. Our Spirit is already "clean" so to speak. It has no flaws, prejudices, or ulterior motives- it's pure Joy and Love.
So how can an individual better access the Spirit within them?
The answer is simple Meditate. Now, when I say meditate many people have this misconception that they must sit still for hours and hours on end, "stilling there mind", not worrying, sitting in an uncomfortable position, and this just sounds incredibly hard, or impossible. Meditation is time for you to re-center and re-ground, so do it the way you please, it simply takes practice. Even if you can only do it in your car for five minutes prior to work or while sitting on the metro, some is better than none. When in meditation we can access our higher-self and spirit guides to give us direction and purpose to our lives, or simply questions such as, "What do I need to do more of?" The answers may come as explicit words, images, or even just gut-feelings to "go here" and "do this" and "talk to this person". The more and more you trust what you receive from Spirit, the more things will coincidentally "fall into place" for you in your life.
Some ideas to get you jump-started in meditation:
1. Enjoy the Sun
For 15 minutes or so, sit facing the sun, either outside or by a window. Just breathe and feel the sun's energy moving through you. Just simply throw your cares and worries to the sun. More importantly, the sun is an energetic cleanser!
2. Purchase a meditation CD.
There are many kinds of meditation CDs.
If you are auditory then one with music might be more to your liking.
If you are a feeler, then a meditation CD with breathing exercises would probably benefit you more.
If you are visual a guided visual imagery CD or a piece art or religious figure may help you focus more.
3. Find an author who writes about accessing Spirit
- Pick one who resonates with you.Generally these authors can be found in the "New Age" or religious section of the bookstore.
As an individual begins to work on these interconnected aspects of themselves, the other aspects soon desire to be in balance as well. So, these aspects can be worked on in any order and as many as you want at any given time. Eventually, they will all desire to be in balance and harmony!
Below are 2 Suggestions for "Quickie Cleansing"
These cleansing out dense energy in all 3 aspects.
1. A Hot Bath with LOTS of Epsom Salt.
2. Sage with Intention
-Stick or Spray.
Be warned it smells like marijuana when burned, so if you live in a shared living arrangements I recommend the spray.
Sage with intent to cleanse dense energy out! Anything can bring dense energy in: arguments with a roommate, a toxic or negative person, anything that shifts the balance of peace and harmony in your life. Once you sage, you will notice the difference in how you and the room/house feel- lighter!
*Highly suggest purchasing a How-To book on Saging, which can be found at most book stores.
(If you just wave the stick around with no intention it won't help!)
Thursday, November 1, 2012
9. Mediums As Everyday Healers
I've touched upon briefly in other blog post about channelers and mediums. As many of you know, my goal is to water down the woo-woo and bring out the healing elements present in psychic work. This post is dedicated to mediums and channelers- YOU ARE AWESOME! (For time sake I will just being using the term medium throughout this posting).
To be frank a Medium is an individual whom communicates with deceased people and/or beings on other dimensional planes. Coming from a family of mediums, both self-acknowledged and not, this can cause a few raised eyebrows in our society!
I wish to focus on the positive healing aspects of medium work by sharing a personal experience. I have two stories I wish to share. Normally, I would not write an article this intimate on Spirit, however the young man gave me his permission and I was "pushed" to write it as soon as I got up this morning. I have left his name out for privacy purposes and made some details vague for that reason.
The first experience I had was of a young man who went missing. I rarely read the news, but sure enough after a week I was driving down the highway when the local radio began asking the public for any information of this young man's whereabouts. The next day, I was driving again, and the same broadcast was sent out. I felt so bad for his family, they must be worried sick. I was still hopeful for this young man. So I "tuned in". Instantly I had goosebumps all up and down my arms. I' "saw" (in my mind's eye)The young man was sitting in the backseat of my car, staring out the window. He appeared very ashamed, he wouldn't even make eye contact.
Our dialogue was as follows:
M: Why are you so sad? (The young man came in spirit, so he had crossed)
B: I'm ashamed, my parents will be so ashamed.
M: No, no they won't. You're family is worried sick about you. Where are you?
B: In a place they have searched before.
M: Are you hiding your body with spirit?
B: Yes, I'm so ashamed they can't ever know.
M: Please let them find you, they love you, they need to know for their own healing.
B: Okay. (affirming his agreement to be found)
M: I'm going to cross you now. See that light over there, do you see anyone you know?
B: Yes, my relatives ( I want to say grandmother)
M: Okay, follow that light. Go be happy there.
The next day the police found his body in a place they had previously searched.
The second experience I had was of another young man who had been badly injured in a car accident. He was unconscious, and not expected to live or make it through the night. I have never met this young man in my life. I had only heard of the accomplishments of this young man through my father, who worked briefly for a time with one of his relatives. The young man's critical situation resonated with me. I thought maybe it was because were both former college athletes, close in age, and just starting to get our careers underway, but there was to be more than that.
A few days later, I was getting ready for bed in front of my dresser, as I sent silent prayer for this young man, I suddenly had a flash of a vision in my mind's eye: A young man standing between two doors. One door representing the spirit world and the other the earth plane. He looked at me as if to say, which one do I choose? Without thinking, I explained to him that I could not choose for him, he would have to use his own free will to choose. I relayed the pros and cons of each door. The spirit world would be wonderful, however his immediate family would not be there, and from what my father had shared it sounded like he was doing some pretty cool stuff on the earth plane. The earth plane had his family and his life before him, although if he chose to stay, he may have a long road to recovery. After a few moments, he pushed through the door for the earth plane.
The next day my father was informed that the young man had regained consciousness, and eerily enough had regained consciousness around 11 pm, about the same time he chose his door. He is expected to live with a long road to recovery.
Where was the healing in each of these situations?
There was healing for the previously missing young man's family. If his remains had never been found his family would never know and been left to question, at least now they can grieve and mourn fully, and heal along the way. Probably, if the young man had not revealed his whereabouts he might have hung around on the earth plane and not grown and evolved on a soul level. This is important because soul-growth is vital a soul's current lifetime and the next.
As for the formerly unconscious young man, this was my first experience working with a soul who was "in-between" so to speak. I can only guess as to why this experience occurred, and can only suspect that he stayed because he desired to finish his soul-work.
Frequently Asked Questions.
Can everyone be a medium?
Yes. I believe everyone is able.
Can all mediums see deceased people?
Generally speaking, Yes.
There are different mediums- Some mediums can see spirit, just as they could an everyday person. Others, like myself, only see them in my mind's eye.
Is Medium work entertainment?
UH NO. Medium sessions and parties can be TONS of fun and plenty of good laughs and humor from Spirit. However, the main line of our work is HEALING, it is not just for shits and giggles.
How do I train to be a medium?
Most persons who are called down that path are already mediums. It is highly suggested if one is interested in tapping into mediumship ability that they find a teacher or mentor, or even better pray for one!
Can my deceased relatives come visit me if I ask them to?
Yes, even if you are not a Medium. You are more than free to ask your relatives to come visit you or help you in your everyday life. Most times our "dead people" have no qualms about helping us out, mine help me keep the house clean!
So, the work of a medium is done on both ends. Our job is not to just "talk to deceased" people.
Our work is to help BOTH those here on the earth plane and in spirit, to heal and evolve on the soul level.
Medium work is done with pure unconditional love and the intent to heal.
Happy All Souls Day!
Note** If you are interested in a Mediumship Session with Meredith
please contact her at meredithrosemcdonough@gmail.com.
Rate is $1.50/minute.
To be frank a Medium is an individual whom communicates with deceased people and/or beings on other dimensional planes. Coming from a family of mediums, both self-acknowledged and not, this can cause a few raised eyebrows in our society!
I wish to focus on the positive healing aspects of medium work by sharing a personal experience. I have two stories I wish to share. Normally, I would not write an article this intimate on Spirit, however the young man gave me his permission and I was "pushed" to write it as soon as I got up this morning. I have left his name out for privacy purposes and made some details vague for that reason.
The first experience I had was of a young man who went missing. I rarely read the news, but sure enough after a week I was driving down the highway when the local radio began asking the public for any information of this young man's whereabouts. The next day, I was driving again, and the same broadcast was sent out. I felt so bad for his family, they must be worried sick. I was still hopeful for this young man. So I "tuned in". Instantly I had goosebumps all up and down my arms. I' "saw" (in my mind's eye)The young man was sitting in the backseat of my car, staring out the window. He appeared very ashamed, he wouldn't even make eye contact.
Our dialogue was as follows:
M: Why are you so sad? (The young man came in spirit, so he had crossed)
B: I'm ashamed, my parents will be so ashamed.
M: No, no they won't. You're family is worried sick about you. Where are you?
B: In a place they have searched before.
M: Are you hiding your body with spirit?
B: Yes, I'm so ashamed they can't ever know.
M: Please let them find you, they love you, they need to know for their own healing.
B: Okay. (affirming his agreement to be found)
M: I'm going to cross you now. See that light over there, do you see anyone you know?
B: Yes, my relatives ( I want to say grandmother)
M: Okay, follow that light. Go be happy there.
The next day the police found his body in a place they had previously searched.
The second experience I had was of another young man who had been badly injured in a car accident. He was unconscious, and not expected to live or make it through the night. I have never met this young man in my life. I had only heard of the accomplishments of this young man through my father, who worked briefly for a time with one of his relatives. The young man's critical situation resonated with me. I thought maybe it was because were both former college athletes, close in age, and just starting to get our careers underway, but there was to be more than that.
A few days later, I was getting ready for bed in front of my dresser, as I sent silent prayer for this young man, I suddenly had a flash of a vision in my mind's eye: A young man standing between two doors. One door representing the spirit world and the other the earth plane. He looked at me as if to say, which one do I choose? Without thinking, I explained to him that I could not choose for him, he would have to use his own free will to choose. I relayed the pros and cons of each door. The spirit world would be wonderful, however his immediate family would not be there, and from what my father had shared it sounded like he was doing some pretty cool stuff on the earth plane. The earth plane had his family and his life before him, although if he chose to stay, he may have a long road to recovery. After a few moments, he pushed through the door for the earth plane.
The next day my father was informed that the young man had regained consciousness, and eerily enough had regained consciousness around 11 pm, about the same time he chose his door. He is expected to live with a long road to recovery.
Where was the healing in each of these situations?
There was healing for the previously missing young man's family. If his remains had never been found his family would never know and been left to question, at least now they can grieve and mourn fully, and heal along the way. Probably, if the young man had not revealed his whereabouts he might have hung around on the earth plane and not grown and evolved on a soul level. This is important because soul-growth is vital a soul's current lifetime and the next.
As for the formerly unconscious young man, this was my first experience working with a soul who was "in-between" so to speak. I can only guess as to why this experience occurred, and can only suspect that he stayed because he desired to finish his soul-work.
Frequently Asked Questions.
Can everyone be a medium?
Yes. I believe everyone is able.
Can all mediums see deceased people?
Generally speaking, Yes.
There are different mediums- Some mediums can see spirit, just as they could an everyday person. Others, like myself, only see them in my mind's eye.
Is Medium work entertainment?
UH NO. Medium sessions and parties can be TONS of fun and plenty of good laughs and humor from Spirit. However, the main line of our work is HEALING, it is not just for shits and giggles.
How do I train to be a medium?
Most persons who are called down that path are already mediums. It is highly suggested if one is interested in tapping into mediumship ability that they find a teacher or mentor, or even better pray for one!
Can my deceased relatives come visit me if I ask them to?
Yes, even if you are not a Medium. You are more than free to ask your relatives to come visit you or help you in your everyday life. Most times our "dead people" have no qualms about helping us out, mine help me keep the house clean!
So, the work of a medium is done on both ends. Our job is not to just "talk to deceased" people.
Our work is to help BOTH those here on the earth plane and in spirit, to heal and evolve on the soul level.
Medium work is done with pure unconditional love and the intent to heal.
Happy All Souls Day!
Note** If you are interested in a Mediumship Session with Meredith
please contact her at meredithrosemcdonough@gmail.com.
Rate is $1.50/minute.
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